To be fed up with OH's behaviour?

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Just for an example.

He litters today we went away for the day he threw his lunch wrappers out the window. A woman pulled up saying you dropped something he replied are you the police her husband then said the same thing OH said are you the police if not get on your way.

His behaviour he talks to people however he wants to he doesn't care.

He's aggressive in everything he does driving for example if someone sits on his back bumper he won't move over they will go round him then he will chase after them doing 80-100mph just to call the a "fucking idiot"

He swears so much every sentence usually has a swear word in it embarrasses me especially when my mum is there (she hates swearing)

We have been arguing quite badly lately and he seems to blame everyone else except for himself.

He's not the person I fell in love with I feel myself falling out of love quite quickly his behaviour repulses me.

The driving makes me so nervous we have DD and DS so I'm constantly thinking about if we crash he always says I'm a good driver but it doesn't mean a crash is avoidable.

You have said that, now what are his good points and what do you love about him.?

Is there anything nice about him OP? I’m not going to do the usual MN “he sounds horrible” because of course he does because you (understandably) haven’t mentioned anything else.

Do you call him out on this stuff?

Bloody hell, has his behaviour changed recently?

I’d be so embarrassed by his boorish behaviour. Do you actually have sex with this ignorant lout?

Read what you have written. Now imagine it was your daughter saying what you've written. What would your advice be to your daughter?

Christ, how embarrassing.

Does he drive 80-100 mph with your DC in the car???

Seriously he sounds like a dick. What are his redeeming qualities?

God almighty I wouldn't a) let him drive the DC about any more and b) tolerate living with someone that rude.

How embarrassing for him that this is who he chooses to be. You can choose an alternative, you know, and nobody will chastise you for wanting something better than a dirty, rude oik.

@Elena567 yup he doesn't think it's bad though.

I call him out on his behaviour all the time but usually has a stupid answer such as his body is full of testosterone as we don't have sex anymore.

And his littering is because his dad has always done it, knows it's wrong but still does it.

*@Elena567 yup he doesn't think it's bad though.

I call him out on his behaviour all the time but usually has a stupid answer such as his body is full of testosterone as we don't have sex anymore.

And his littering is because his dad has always done it, knows it's wrong but still does it*

How old is he?? Is he early 20s? He sounds extremely childish.

And don’t get me started on blaming having a road rage fit at 100mph with his kids in the car because he doesn’t get enough sex- has he ever heard of a wank ?

I think you know what you need to do.

Very weird ....

He sounds vile.

before long he'll be treating you the same way he treats everyone else - if he doesn't already.

Does he have ANY redeeming qualities?

And his littering is because his dad has always done it, knows it's wrong but still does it.

What a twat. That’s the thickest thing to say ever. Dumbass. I’d bollock his arse for littering.

Were you bullied as a child? Were you taught that men are to be obeyed and indulged, or that marriage is for life and you must just accept your husband's behaviour? Because a lot of people would have told this man to fuck off and not come back, long ago.

Have a think about how to go about ending this marriage. It doesn't sound worth trying to improve it, because he fundamentally doesn't see you as a person, does he?

He sounds like a low-life scumbag.

how were you ever attracted to this?

Even if he was a good driver (he isn't, good drivers don't do that), when he goes after the wrong person and they run him off the road with your precious children in the car you will wish you had ended it sooner.

The littering is also horrible. He seems very unpleasant.

You can do better.

I’d be leaving him for that excuse for littering alone. What an arsehole. What do women see in men like this? Seriously?

Why stay with this jerk OP?

He sounds awful OP

Wow, he sounds exactly like an ex I had. Once I locked him out of the bedroom so he broke the door down with an axe, and also the leg of the bed I was sleeping in. He also tried to strangle me once - fortunately he decided to stop. He is my ex. I cannot imagine the life I would have led had I not ended things. You can choose a life of fear, pain, no friends, shame and embarrassment or you can end things.
There's plenty of people and organisations who can help you find a new, happy, calm life where you're not wondering what will upset him next. Stay safe.

Your children will learn from his behaviour. Not a great role model is he.

I couldn't be with a man like that.
Raise your bar.

I call him out on his behaviour all the time but usually has a stupid answer such as his body is full of testosterone as we don't have sex anymore.

Can’t believe you’re not putting out for this prince among men.

I’d leave. Boy Racer is gonna kill someone, and sadly, it’s usually someone else rather than themselves.

Sounds like a boorish lout. Anyone who answers challenges to bad behaviour as 'what is it to you?' expose their true character. The world would be a better place without reptiles like this. And you would definitely better off out of this relationship.