Marriage over?

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TrainsandDiggers · 22/05/2019 20:44

What subtle or obvious signs do you think there are that (a) a marriage is over and (b) a marriage is struggling but can still be saved?

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SoyDora · 22/05/2019 20:45

A marriage is over if one or both of the parties want it to be over.
It can be saved if both parties are committed to saving it.

FauxJoMalaux · 22/05/2019 21:01

Agree with Dora. I’m in this situation and did want to try to save it but DH wants out so nothing I can do apart from move forward knowing it’s over.

In my own experience it might have been saved if, when I suggested marriage counselling and had booked it, but who knows as I didn’t and here we are.

In hindsight Significant signs he’d already checked out: lies, lack of loyalty, not taking my anxieties seriously, minimising my feelings. I just ended up feeling very miserable and not cared about. Oddly our sex life really picked up though.

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TrainsandDiggers · 22/05/2019 21:20

So sorry to hear your story Faux. Thanks for your replies xx

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Tixytrick · 22/05/2019 21:24

When you partner has zero interest in you. Total apathy.

Cryalot2 · 22/05/2019 21:24

Hi faux
I feel like your last paragraph only no sex .

cuppycakey · 22/05/2019 21:26

For me it was the realisation that when his car pulled into the drive I no longer felt happy and excited, but disappointed and on edge.

PlausibleSuit · 22/05/2019 21:32

Friend said to me once, 'When contempt creeps in, from either side, it's properly unrescuable.'

Not sure if unrescuable is a real word but you get the concept.

FauxJoMalaux · 22/05/2019 21:52

Cryalot- I’m sorry that you feel that way too are you also at the end of your marriage?

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