Marriage over?

[TrainsandDiggers]

What subtle or obvious signs do you think there are that (a) a marriage is over and (b) a marriage is struggling but can still be saved?

A marriage is over if one or both of the parties want it to be over.
It can be saved if both parties are committed to saving it.

Agree with Dora. I’m in this situation and did want to try to save it but DH wants out so nothing I can do apart from move forward knowing it’s over.

In my own experience it might have been saved if, when I suggested marriage counselling and had booked it, but who knows as I didn’t and here we are.

In hindsight Significant signs he’d already checked out: lies, lack of loyalty, not taking my anxieties seriously, minimising my feelings. I just ended up feeling very miserable and not cared about. Oddly our sex life really picked up though.

So sorry to hear your story Faux. Thanks for your replies xx

When you partner has zero interest in you. Total apathy.

Hi faux
I feel like your last paragraph only no sex .

For me it was the realisation that when his car pulled into the drive I no longer felt happy and excited, but disappointed and on edge.

Friend said to me once, 'When contempt creeps in, from either side, it's properly unrescuable.'

Not sure if unrescuable is a real word but you get the concept.

Cryalot- I’m sorry that you feel that way too are you also at the end of your marriage?