Worried about starting new job after 8 years!

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I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me :(

I suffer really badly with anxiety. I’ve been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and health anxiety.

I’ve been unhappy in my job for the last 6 years but on and off. I’ve been to a few interviews and got so nervous the night before I’ve not slept, didn’t get the jobs and felt crap about myself.

Now I’ve been offered a job I’m terrified of being crap at it. There’s some stuff on the JD I’ve not done before (I didn’t lie in my application and say I have done any of these things) and I know the work is going to be a lot more in volume than what I’ve been used to.

I’m worried about all sorts of aspects of the job. Where I am, I know my work colleagues really like me. I keep thinking what if they don’t like me at the new place.

It’s also full time and I already feel guilty that this might affect my parenting (I already don’t feel like the greatest parent).

I know this sounds like a total pity party, woah is me situation but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to worry less.

I’ve had CBT therapy with limited effect and I really really don’t want to take medication.

Thanks so much (and please no one flame me).

Congratulations :)
Take the motivation that got you this job and let it drown out those thoughts, like in this video m.youtube.com/watch?v=Z29ptSuoWRc#
My other tip is that to make this work you need to build in a minimum half an hour a day or two hours a week ‘you time’ for whatever helps your anxiety eg yoga, tai chi, running, reading, walking in nature, knitting.
You’re new, no one expects you to know anything yet, so go in, smile, listen and learn. You will make mistakes, you will learn, people will want it to work. Wishing you all the best.

I recently started a new job after 8 years. I've been there just over a month now.

It's normal to feel like this, but they hired you knowing you'll need training. They aren't expecting you to walk in there and just get on with it. You've been hired because you were the best candidate. They can already see you're more than capable.

Life is far too short to be in a job you hate. You've done the right thing. Good luck!

Congratulations!

Totally normal to wonder what a change is going to be like after so long.

I like you suffer anxiety and did this just over 2 years back, changed form a job I was at over 10 years, that I actually liked, and was SO comfy at, but I was more than ready to leave (and redundancies made that decision easy).

I was bricking it, would I be liked, would I like the job etc - infact it was fine.

Good luck, you'll be provided training and it could be the best moved you have ever made.

Thank you so much everyone. Anxiety is so annoying. The video is so true! The horrible passengers are so accurate. It really means a lot that you've all taken time to say such positive things. I've written out my resignation letter and I'm going to hand it in first thing tomorrow. I'm just going to watch the video again a few more times x

Gosh, I don't have anxiety at all, but I had zero confidence when I started back at work (after 8 yrs as a SAHM). All I can say is ... other people change jobs & survive to tell the tale, even thrive & progress. There's no reason why you won't do well, too.

I don't have anxiety at all. But I have just started a new part time job. To add to my other (recently reduced) part time job, that I've been at for 8 years.

Even I am still worried, hoping I'm good enough, hoping I can cope with the strain of learning such a lot rapidly and quickly.

I'm sure your'll be fine!!

I don't have anxiety either so can't imagine what that must be like but started a job last year after 10 years at my old job and I felt exactly the same! Now one year on it has been the best decision I ever made. Just take one day at a time and remember they thought you were the best person for the job so you will be great!