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Three holidays booked abroad?

65 replies

GaynorGoodwin · 22/05/2019 00:09

I’ve got 3 holidays booked with work, two separate weeks this year and one next, all are abroad. We’ve got them in as at hubby’s place of work it’s hard to book anything last minute plus it can be first come, first served. Anyway at my place I just have to check with a colleague, making sure she’s not booked the same week (all which I’ve done) and she’s confirmed she’s not. My point now is, she’s made two comments in front of the other teams ‘that I’ve got three holidays booked’ so loud others do hear. Seriously WTF is she doing? She is away herself abroad, doesn’t miss out on holidays...How should I reply as she’s pissing me off big time?? Advice welcome, what do you think?

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BlackPrism · 22/05/2019 00:10

That's weird... I've been on two already and am going on another 3 over summer. People shouldn't comment, you're entitled if you've done the proper checks and it's been accepted

ShanghaiDiva · 22/05/2019 00:12

I wouldn't bother commenting.

PollyShelby · 22/05/2019 00:14

Just say do you think that's not enough? I think you're right. I'll book another.

WorraLiberty · 22/05/2019 00:15

2 comments?

It wouldn't enter my head to be bothered about that.

thenightsky · 22/05/2019 00:27

Nah... Ignore her. I've done three since Xmas and I'm off again next month. Nobody's business but mine.

OhMyDarling · 22/05/2019 00:32

2 words: climate crisis.

JingsMahBucket · 22/05/2019 00:41

Is there a particular reason why you care if others hear?

I’d also ask her if there’s some kind of issue with it because she mutually approved them as your team member.

JingsMahBucket · 22/05/2019 00:42

That said, I’d possibly ignore as well.

RuggerHug · 22/05/2019 00:44

Say NOTHING. Think of it as she's annoyed you're organised and leave it at that.

Confused1977 · 22/05/2019 01:02

Don't worry

araiwa · 22/05/2019 01:05

Thats what you book holidays from work for

I dont know why she is commenting or why youre bothered

StillCoughingandLaughing · 22/05/2019 01:39

What are these comments? Unless you’re leaving something out (e.g. ‘How the hell does she afford it?’ or ‘I’m forever stuck covering for her’ or similar) she’s being purely factual; if loud.

BlueJava · 22/05/2019 06:59

You have to check your holidays don't coincide - but you don't have to tell her where you are going! If she is a gossip or jealous just book the leave and don't tell anyone. If she asks give a vague "um not sure..." and move on to something else quickly.

TheCanterburyWhales · 22/05/2019 07:06

Is there a bit missing from the OP?

I don't understand why this is an issue.

She's said you've booked holiday time off. You have booked holiday time off. Was it supposed to be a secret?

swingofthings · 22/05/2019 07:12

I do find people who book many months on advance annoying as ultimately they get the first pick and then everyone have to go around these dates which always seem to be the most convenient ones (ie. around BH).

I appreciate that the earlier you book the cheaper it is but some people are not in a position to book early.

It's no one's fault, if you can do it, you might as well make the best of it but yes, it is annoying for the others who are left to book around other people's dates.

CruellaFeinberg · 22/05/2019 07:16

i do find people who book many months on advance annoying as ultimately they get the first pick and then everyone have to go around these dates which always seem to be the most convenient ones (ie. around BH). Hmm

Nothing to stop you booking the time off work and then planning your holiday later

swingofthings · 22/05/2019 07:28

Nothing to stop you booking the time off work and then planning your holiday later
Sadly my partner isn't allowed to book months on advance. My mother also look after an elderly lady so again can't book months in advance and with my kids possibly working during their school holidays, again, booking long in advance could me being the one free.

As said, it's no one's fault but it is annoying. This why my oh work doesn't allow booking more than 3 months in advance so that all requests can be considered at the same time.

EleanorReally · 22/05/2019 07:30

why have you got so many holidays abroad?

EleanorReally · 22/05/2019 07:30

you will have to develop a thicker skin op. Laugh it off

Villanellesproudmum · 22/05/2019 07:32

Myself and colleagues discuss our holidays, in what context was she saying it?

rookiemere · 22/05/2019 07:40

We can afford to go abroad by booking holidays or flights as soon as they come out, or as we go with SIL and family to ensure we can get a big enough property . If we had to wait until 3 months in advance then we'd never go abroad.

IvanaPee · 22/05/2019 07:43

I don’t get the issue. Confused

LemonTT · 22/05/2019 07:44

I agree you are pushing your luck in forcing her hand to agree your leave wants so far in advance. I would acknowledge she has done you a big favour and try no to do this again.

I would have refused to agree to the third week on the basis that I don’t know yet. As I manager I would support someone who did this.

You have been v lucky she has agreed. Be grateful to her and stop being so pushy and entitled in future. Your husbands problem is not her problem.

RedSkyLastNight · 22/05/2019 07:50

I think we need a list of topics you are allowed to talk about at work as it seems pretty much anything will piss someone off. Is it a secret that you have these holidays booked? If she's being sneery about it, that's the issue, not the topic of conversation!
I have a colleague who booked lots of Fridays off in a row. There were lots of comments about him booking "yet another Friday", no one meant anything by it, it was just something to say when talking about the weather got dull.

thecatsthecats · 22/05/2019 07:52

I don't know whether to raise my eyebrows at the people failing to see the issue or be envious that they don't encounter this sort of pass-agg behaviour, because I immediately saw the source of OP's annoyance!

I'm assuming she's one of those aggressively aggrieved, 'alright for some' types who is always comparing who has what? We had one of these in the office, she was forever passing comment on what other people had or didn't have, and where it 'ranked' compared to her stuff.

Drove everyone nuts, because the rest of us were understanding of the concept of people having different incomes and different priorities.

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