to not invite them to the ceremony?

[HighGarden1]

I am getting married this summer. It's a small registry office do, followed by a small lunch in a local pub. However, if we'd had our way we would have eloped with 'off th street' witnesses. We didn't as a couple of close family membrs would have been upset, despite the majority saying they would have been happy for us to do what we want.

The ceremony is just immediate family members only, making 10 people altogether. We decided to invite a few extended family to the reception afterwards, so they wouldn't feel left out. As a side note, we are paying for it all ourselves.

However, DP's father is kicking off, because his siblings (DP's aunt /unlces) have only been invited to the reception. He said they should be invited to the ceremony and if they're not invited, he doesn't want to come.

I should add that DP hasn't seen these aunts/uncles for about five years, and I met them once, about seven years ago. They are the most distant people (to us) coming to the reception, infact people much closer to us haven't been invited. This was a compromise in the first place to please DP's father, but it's not enough.

Are we being unreasonable to not have invited them? This is stress I really don't need :(

I think I’d revert to eloping and asking a couple of strangers to be witnesses.

Your dp’s dad is completely unreasonable. It’s your wedding not him.

..not his

Tell him you have made it very clear that you want a small wedding, that his siblings are invited to the reception and that you will be very pleased to see them there, should they wish to accept the invitation. If they would prefer to decline you will be disappointed, but respect their choice. He can then also make his own choice.

Nope it’s your wedding invite only who you want. I bet his father comes.

FIL is nuts.

My dad's partner kicked off for our wedding because I wouldn't invite her children (who I don't particularly like much anyway). My dad said that she would refuse to come if I didn't invite them. It took a lot because I'm a people pleaser but I simply said to him "That's such a shame but I understand." Then firmly stood our ground.

Funnily enough, she came regardless...

People are ridiculous when it comes to weddings. Put your foot down and say no its not what you want. The end.

I'm surprised you're even inviting them to the reception- with small weddings it's usually only people at the ceremony. Do you really not want them at the ceremony?

FIL is being a dick. I'd tell him not to come if he's being like that.

(Though she had a face like a smacked arse throughout and moaned about sitting her with "horrendous" people. Ie. My closest family friends I consider my family and my deceased dm's siblings who had flown half way across the world to be there. Such a charmer. )