What did your life look like 10 years ago?

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As in 2009

Is it different to what it is today

I was in school doing my GCSEs ,today I am in a job.

Struggling HARD with undiagnosed severe depression. Just about holding down a part-time job and making almost no progress at all on my PhD. Lonely, miserable, hopeless.

Life is dramatically better today.

I was single.. desperate and dateless. Living a party lifestyle.
Now I'm married with 2 kids living in suburbia!

Then: early 20s, trapped in an abusive relationship with a toddler, self worth on the floor.

Now: in a happy, healthy relationship, 2 kids- hoping to have one more and while I’m older, fat, and been through a lot (I look it too- utterly exhausted all the time) I’m happier and more confident than I ever have been.

I was pg with dd1. If you said 20 years ago I was single and earning loads of money, travelling here there and everywhere.

I was planning my wedding with the father of my two children.

Now I am a single mum of 3, the 3rd came from a subsequent relationship.

Oh and I have a new face. Had major facial surgery last year.

2009 Married, professional job with lots of international travel, 3 bed close to forest.

2019 Widowed, retired early, 2 bed terrace in middle of large town.

No-one knows what the future holds so make the most of every day in the here and now while you can.

I was 19. Loving Uni up north. Sharing a flat with friends and having a lot of fun. Was just getting over a breakup during the spring time, my boyfriend had ended things between us - funnily enough he's now my husband!- and I was having a little fling with a very very gorgeous young man a couple of years older. I then spent the summer in the USA with other friends. Good times.

I was in an unhappy childless marriage and working full time.
I'm now in a happy marriage working part time with a ds.

10 years ago was the beginnings of a hellish few years dealing with a difficult H and his out of control DS who came to live with us overnight after his mother gave up
Coincided with my DS of the same age being diagnosed with autism after a rocky start to secondary school.
Was a year into a job I fell into and found I had an aptitude for.

Now divorced, doing same job for a different company, still love it. My DCs both happy, have 2 GCs and I've finally met the man of my dreams.

2009 - I was heading towards my 40th birthday and dreading it! We'd been married for 10 years, I was a SAHM and our sons were in Years 7 and 4. We had a small mortgage on a town centre period house which I was never going to move from. At this precise time we were in New York on holiday.

2019 - 50 is a couple of months away and I'm dreading that too. Still married, still at home (lack of confidence and the fact I've been out of the workplace for so long). Oldest son is back home after graduating and is soon to start his PGCE, youngest is working part time in retail and is just finishing up his third year of an engineering course. We now live in a new build in a village with a much larger mortgage. And we have a dog.
On the whole, life's good. Our sons don't need us quite so much so we have a lot of time for ourselves and we have the bonus of having live-in housesitters/dogsitters when we go on holiday.

Then I was at uni doing a micky mouse degree, single and living with dm.

Now, I'm married 7years, with two ds and a part time job. I also moved out of dm house to dh house.

I was 27, a raging alcoholic in a relationship going nowhere after a toxic 6 year relationship had needed badly and about to lose my job and very close to being kicked out of my parents house due to said alcoholism.

Now I'm happily married with two beautiful sons and we have our own lovely house. Been employed for 9 years in a job I love. My life has done a compete U turn and I am grateful every day for it.

10 years ago I was living in a city centre flat with my boyfriend (now DH) fresh out of uni and enjoying nights out, meals in fancy restaurants, and just generally feeling very grown up!
Sadly though, I had also just had a miscarriage the previous month - so weird to think I could have a 9 year old now..

*Ended, not needed

Extremely lonely and sad time. Much better now but coukd be even better.

10 years ago was 7 months pregnant, had a five year old, was in the depths of babyland, fishfingers & play dates, uncomfortable and tired!

10 years before that had an incredible job, wild social life, spontaneous weekends away, parties, lost weekends, fun, an amazing wardrobe, glossy hair, abs & a million stories to tell that can never be told..

Right now I’m feeling old, haggard & stretched in every direction but starting to feel like myself again & having lots of fun & I adore my kids. Wouldn’t change it for any but it feels like a thousand lifetimes have passed..

I was just about to finish college aged 19.
Working a lot. Going out with friends etc... Not really sure what I wanted to do with my life.

I was just a few months away from meeting the man who I have spent the past 10 years with. At least when I’m 39 I will be looking back at 10 years not spent with him... 🥳🎉

Three young kids. Dp has lost his job, we were on benefits. Trying to fit in with bitchy school mums and feeling a bit lost.
10 years on.. one difficult toddler of 2009 turned out to have a disability. Full time job and degree. Dp works too. Beautiful cottage in the country, great group of friends. No longer give two fucks about keeping up with the next person.

I was single and about to leave teaching and get back with my ex.
I did leave teaching and get back with my ex, but then I met dh in 2010. Now we have 3 kids and moved to the countryside and I am teaching again.

I left a job I hated and moved to an equally worse company. DH was made redundant so it was the start of financially bad times for us which lasted a few years.

Just started my job. Realising I was in a dead end relationship with someone who was just using me and didn't care about me. Making new friends at worth gave me the self worth and confidence to leave that

Love this thread!

Id been living abroad for a few years having to decide between applying for citizenship or come home as my visa was running out. I was single and sick of dating and thought I never really wanted kids.

Now - moved back to the uk, continued to date a couple of losers then met my DH who I completely and utter adored from the first second I met him. Two kids 5 jobs and a flat and 2 houses later, my life could not be more different!

I loved my single life abroad but wouldn’t be without my new family now.

I had my lovely mum still alive and my dad wasn't in a home with parkinsons

Ten years ago... I had just started going out with my current partner and we were doing out GCSEs.

Today, we have a 7 year old and a toddler! It's definitely not gone how I expected but I wouldn't change a thing.

Living in the same house, doing the same job, just we're all ten years older.