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To ban chocolate brioche rolls because ds1 disobeyed me?

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EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 09:07

I bought chocolate brioche rolls for breakfast today, and ds1 (4yo) was really looking forward to them.

HOWEVER every morning this week he has got uo silently, stood on a chair to take the latch off the kitchen door, gone in the fridge and helped himself, ignoring all the things he is allowed to help himself to like the fruit bowl.

Today I caught him sitting on his bed eating raw sausages [barf] he looked like a bloody poster child for the NSPCC.

He knows he's not allowed to do this, he has to come and wake me up and I will go in the kitchen for him.

So I have given his little brother choclate brioche rolls for breakfast, and I have given him toast.

But he is sobbing and I feel really cruel. Toast is a normal breakfast in this houise BTW, not a bread-and-water punishment.

So, am I?

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Elasticwoman · 20/07/2007 20:15

Flyingmachine - sorry, I did have visions of the waittress running after you like in The Elephant & The Bad Baby! It's just that in the past when such a dramatic solution to the bad behaviour problem presented itself to me, I had not paid and the logistics then seemed impossibly convoluted. Rather like this post so I'll shut up now ...

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EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 20:21

I am a harrrrrrrd wumman!

No, actually, I very nearly gave in, but this is a lesson he needs to learn, what if one day he decides to cook the blasted sausages!?

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coddy · 20/07/2007 20:23

you are fuinny

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EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 20:26

Only when I am not trying to be, sadly.

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pointydog · 20/07/2007 20:29

now, can this thread be turned into a fussy easter one? I've been missing that kinda thread.

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EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 20:31

Go on then.

"My child will only eat raw meat, self-hacked cheese, and pilfered biscuits. What am I doing wrong?"

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iheartdusty · 20/07/2007 20:38

you said he is allowed to get fruit himself, but does that apply in the morning?
could you leave him a selection of snacks he can get for himself, eg dried fruit or crackers, so he can have some autonomy?

it is possible he is hungry, even after supper, after all it is presumably best part of 12 hours later that he gets up, but tbh sounds more that he is enjoying a little crafty 'secret mission'.

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EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 20:41

he can access

fruit (he can help himself, and sometimes does, but takes one bite of an apple, puts it back, and hunts for something more interesting)
cereal
bread

basically, andthing in the kitchen is easier to reach and consume than those raw sausages were, they were at the back of a high fridge, the cereal was at the front of a low cupboard, he knows where it is.

He enjoys the mission.

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MrsScavo · 20/07/2007 20:43

I'd leave him somthing to eat on the kithchen table and set my alarm. The first time DS1 got up without waking us up we found him sitting in the living room watching TV, having poured milk into a box of cereal. He was using spoon, though.

iheartdusty · 20/07/2007 20:48

or maybe set up some other attraction?

if he wants to get up by himself, could you arrange a stash of activity books and pencils (NB not pens!) specifically for early mornings, or something like that? something which doesn't come out at other times of day.

pointydog · 20/07/2007 20:49

Turn it to your advantage, escape

'I told my child to like raw sausages or lump them - and he ate them! I win!'

Judy1234 · 20/07/2007 21:47

I don't really do punishment and the children seem to have turned out all right and never ever make something that is bad for a child like chocolate a treat. So no I kind disagree with you on every count.

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EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 21:49

Har

If only that would work! Ds2 threw a passy today because I gave him some pastry - he wanted my salad. So I gave him my salad. Ds1 refused to eat the potaoes on his plate because they had skin on. So- raw sausages, FAB, nice new potatoes - BAD!?

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chipmonkey · 20/07/2007 22:49

I think YABU, just a little. This is from the perspective of someone whose eldest is now 11 and I really think when he was smaller there were times I failed to realise that he was just a baby and was quite hard on him. Ds3 at 2 gets away with murder!

theressomethingaboutmarie · 23/07/2007 16:46

EscapeFrom - yet again, this thread has made me laugh outloud. Your son sounds just adorable and bloody hilarious. Hope that the tactics worked.

McDreamy · 23/07/2007 16:52

Did he know that as a result of his behaviuor you would ban the chocolate brioche or did you decide this afterwards?

If he knew then YANBU if he didn't knew then I think YABU. Hope that makes sense

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EscapeFrom · 23/07/2007 16:56

No he didn't know, because it was a spur of the moment thing - I hate to use food to threaten or reward.

He wouldn't have eaten them anyway - he was full of raw sausage.

And it didn't work anyway because he went in the kitchen this morning and got into my eggs and dropped them all over the living room floor

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McDreamy · 23/07/2007 16:58

Oh man!!!!!

What a morning you had!

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EscapeFrom · 23/07/2007 16:59

Well, in a way he spoilt his own breakfast, because I was going to make scrambled eggs with them!

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princessbride · 23/07/2007 17:00

good for you...i must say i usually threaten and give them the choice to change the behaviour and then give them the thing they want....but like this website is so great for, different measures work for different kids, i mean if all our kids were the same and reacted to the same punishment well this site wouldnt be needed....thats why we need so many different ideas

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EscapeFrom · 05/08/2007 13:42

An UPDATE

He earned his planet chart - I told thim 3 more days of staying out of the kitchen and I would buy it.

I also tightened the chain so he isn't strong enough to undo it, but this is a temporary measure - I will sort this soon.

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