To want to know why DH takes so long to do basic tasks?

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He's so SLOW! When he's leaving the house for something is a particularly bad time....he fusses and fiddles and returns...goes to pack the car with the tools he needs for the day and is so pedantic it takes ages.

THen he's ready to go..but he's NOT! He comes back to get something....multiple times.

It drives me mad. We've been together for almost 17 years but I still can't cope with his habitual disorganisation. I tell him to get his stuff ready the night before but he never does.

It doesn't impact me as such but it irritates me to have him wandering about for so long.

Honestly I just assume all men are like this because my husband,dad,step dad, grand fathers and uncles are all like this!!

He is a faffer. Sadly I don't believe there's a cute available.

Ahhh the faffing. Boils my piss.
I once left DH to do the dishes (just the once ) and the noise that came from the kitchen...good lord. Banging, clattering etc for a good half an hour. Went in to see how he’d got on...

Not one dish had been washed. NOT ONE!!! Apparently he needed the half an hour to PREP the dishes. FFS.

HardKnock Omg that's DH! He's all "I have to prep the draining board.."

He does clean but it's not CLEAN. It's just bastard tidy! He washes up....takes AGES....then when I go in I see he's not wiped any surfaces.

It takes me ten minutes to wash dishes and wipe counters.

And yes....the BANGING!

My people! Im married to a faffer and it kills me. My dad is the total opposite, gets ready in 5 minutes with zero fuss and is usually waiting for everyone else. So i had NO prewarning of this as A Thing.

I often come in the kitchen to find dh prepping the dishes before they go into the dishwasher. This involves neatly stacking and categorizing gross, dirty plates and cutlery. Then a process of stacking the dishwasher. I swear he's not doing it badly so i do it next time, it's just the way he does it. Just put the dishes in the god damn dishwasher and be done!!!

I’m like this, I just seem to haemorrhage time, it’s so annoying. I could spend a whole day getting nothing particularly productive done. What’s worse is that DH is also a faffer to a lesser extent so between us it takes forever to do anything. Leaving the house can take until lunchtime if we’ve got nothing on.

Karen do you have difficulty predicting how long things will take? It seems that's part of DH's trouble. He can't seem to plan....

Omg! I’m so glad it’s not just my man that does this! He drives me insane!
He does nothing fast!

I am also married to a faffer. I feel your pain.

How can it take until lunchtime? I'm up, dressed, fed, baby and toddler dressed and fed, out of the house within an hour!

What is it you do that takes so long, or do you do normal tasks in a lengthy manner?

DP can be a faffer, but mostly I think it’s down to sequencing. He does one thing,without thinking of the next.

For example, if he empties the dishwasher, he takes everything out and stacks them on the side. Then he puts them in the cupboards.

Also, he can never complete a task. There is always one thing missing or one item left out or one bit not done.

I'm very thankful my husband isn't a faffer because I would have ended up in prison for murder years ago.

I couldn't stand it. I couldn't marry a faffer. It would drive me mad.

My DH is like this. Constant faffing about. We're ALWAYS waiting for him. If he goes out he always seems to reappear once or twice to get things he's forgotten.