What would you do? re ex, new partner and DC

[idthi]

Not sure what to do right now. Have DS with my ex. With a new partner who hasn't yet met DS.

Ex knows I'm with someone else. When he found out there was a new person on the scene (by hiding round the corner of my house to see who came out), he hit the roof and became unbelievably aggressive towards me, throwing stuff round my home and screaming at me etc.

There's not been much mention of it since but he has asked multiple times since if I'd introduced new partner to DS, and made subtle comments about how it would be irresponsible of me to do that.

I'm now worried about new partner and DS meeting incase ex finds out and has a bad reaction. My ideal situation would be for us to be able to be civil and co-parent and to tell each other and confer with each other with stuff like this so we're both in the loop about what's happening in DS's life but how am I supposed to do that when I don't feel comfortable with his reactions?

WWYD? I don't want to hide anything from him, I don't want to feel on edge incase we bump into him out and he finds out that way, but I equally don't want to have the respect of telling him just for his reaction to be awful and to be called all sorts again.

Depends how long you've been with your new partner. A few months? Your ex is right. A year? Then he's being abit unreasonable.

How long have you been with new boyfriend? How old is your DS?

A few weeks, bit early for an introduction anyway. Few months and a genuine future, it something you and your ex need to talk about.

As long as you are caring for your son in the same way whether single or not then there's no need for your ex to know who's sleeping in your house. Given he's a violent man I'd be wondering if he should be around your child.

he hit the roof and became unbelievably aggressive towards me, throwing stuff round my home and screaming at me etc.

This is the bit to concentrate on. Why is he in your house? His behaviour is unacceptable - did you call the police? If someone threatened me in my home I’d have dialled 999 immediately.

How old is DS and how long have you been with your new partner?