To want a life?

[UnaCorda]

I want to have a family, a partner, to have sex occasionally, to have people to spend time with at the weekend, to have a life that feels vaguely meaningful and isn't spent feeling lonely, unhappy and frustrated. AIBU?

What does your life consist of at the moment? It's unclear how you're currently living/what you do.

Describe life now to us. Maybe we can help? Little steps in the right direction. No rush to fulfill all of your tick list at once.

I'm single. I live alone. I haven't dated in forever. Noone is interested in me. I try to do things to create a sense of purpose (volunteering, travel, study, etc.) but it doesn't work. I have lost enthusiasm for everything.

Haven't you got family? Brothers or sisters who can introduce you to people?

Not nearby, and they are busy with their own families. Only once in my life has anyone bothered to introduce me to a prospective date. That did turn into a relationship, but it ended nearly two decades ago.

You sound terribly unhappy, Una. Do you work? Socialise with friends? Why dont you date - just because you dont want to, or is there a specific reason? Do you enjoy your work, is it fulfilling?

Finally, i hate this question, but could you be depressed?

Yes, I work and I see friends. My job is ok, although my boss does his level best to remove any possible satisfaction from it. I don't date because I never meet anyone.

Could you give us an idea about your age bracket? What about online dating?

How about getting a new job? Work in a pub at the weekends? You’d meet people that way

I'm mid forties. Have tried OLD umpteen times. These days I only get messages for men 15-20 years older. I feel like a pariah and I'm losing hope.