Thinking we might not live happily ever after

[KitKatGymnast]

Been with partner for 2 years. We live separately. He farts a lot, bad breath in the morning and I mean really bad but he will just keep talking, coughing without covering his mouth. He doesn’t wash his hands often at all and uses the loo and thinks washing his hands with water only is acceptable. It repulses me.
He has a daily shower so he himself is not dirty but these other hygiene issues put me off him sometimes. I wonder if we will live happily ever after. AIBU?!

Why don't you talk to him about these things?

It’s very doubtful that you’re going to live happily ever after with someone you’ve stated “repulses me”.

So yeah, YANBU, might as well save yourself the time and revulsion and end it now.

Beyond grim.
Unless your name is Princess Fiona ywnbu to ltb...

Not a chance would I stay with him, he's vile!

I think I will have to have a conversation with him.
Sometimes pisses on my toilet seat. It’s so upsetting.

You need a plan. Tell him to make changes and then if not maybe you need to condor whether you want this long term. It doesn't sound pleasant.

Yes have a conversation with him OP, that's what most adults would do. Stick a peg on your nose if it makes it any easier.

I read this aloud and my DP asked if it was a real post or had I made it up 😂

He reckons being repulsed by your partner isn’t an ingredient in the “happy ever after” recipe.

I agree.

If he repulses you when you don't even live together, perhaps there's not much chance of a happy future together with him?

Definitely a real post. He doesn’t repulse me but some of these unhygienic things do!
I do wonder sometimes if This is what most men do?!

He sounds delightful, I hope he washes his penis before sex but I doubt it from what you've said.
I think you've set the bar way too low on this one

You don’t live together? So he’s just a boyfriend?

Just dump him and move on.

Def not what mine is like.

Although we do both find farts disproportionately funny 😳

Mine farts but is fastidious about hand washing & eating with his mouth shut. He definitely doesn't pee on the toilet seat either

Is pre-sex penis washing the norm?

@RedPanda2. Yes he does. Keeps that part clean thank goodness.

MargotLovedTom1 I would say for oral, yes it’s a must!!

Oh you have a happily ever after.

It won’t be with him.

Farting and bad breath in the mornings isn't really his fault, but peeing on the seat and not washing his hands is something he could change. Though if he really repulses you, then he's probably not the one for you. I'd dump him

Everyone farts, even the Queen
I dare say everyone's breath smells like a budgies cage in the morning too

Has anyone died from his water only hand washing? No they haven't.

Just shout "hand" when he's coughing. That's easily curable.

Ditto - shout "seat" when he's in the loo.

"repulse" is a bit strong. Bit of an over reaction really. These are all solvable issues.

UnicornBrexit I shout those sort of things at my three DSs, I would not expect to be doing it to a life partner.

I would not want him around the children tbh - how disgusting to go for a dump and not thoroughly wash with soap. It repulses me too. Why are some people so downright skanky?

Fuck that

It repulses me.

The point at which you notice that someone repulses you might be the time to realise that the relationship is really all over.

Best let him know ASAP

DH and I have been having sex for50 years.
I don't think he's ever washed his penis before DTD intentionally, only if it coincides with having a shower/bath.
Is pre sex knob washing a thing now?
Have we had 50 years of skanky nookie? or is this a generation thing, Boomers v Gen X v Millennials ?