Victoria Derbyshire and current focus on DV in court process making me nervous...

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I think it's been a long time coming, and it's so important that this is taken seriously. I'm due to be in court with my ex over child contact with my son soon. Ex was emotionally abusive, and was also emotionally abusive towards his daughter from a previous relationship. Very aggressive and admitted to having anger management issues. Thankfully I have evidence of this.

I'm so glad Victoria is focussing on this, however it has made me nervous about going through the court process whilst it's all blown up in the media. Not sure why... I know emotional abuse isn't always seen to be as bad as physical, and it could've been worse, he wasn't hitting me. I just hope I'm taken seriously and not seen as someone just jumping on the bandwagon...

AIBU to feel like this? Or do you think this campaigning won't make a fat lot of difference?

Bump..

Think I posted too early on a Sunday 🙈

I think you did, but hopefully all this media attention will be positive for you in the last few years at least four children have died due to being given unsupervised contact with an abusive parent as facilitated by family court the government were asked to launch an investigation Teresa may refused

I work in the area of prevention of violence against women.
I notice news stories and campaigns because it's my job.
However when I run training it's clear that most people aren't aware of news stories like this.
Obviously I do hope campaigns make a difference but they don't have 100% saturation. Some people will notice but most probably won't.

Also issues around child contact are different from if you had brought criminal charges of coercive control (well reported it and the state had pursued a case).

Family courts see situations like this all the time.

Hopefully they will treat you with compassion. And even if you had me nine it due to increased awareness, that is a recognized consequence of campaigns. Not seen as a bandwagon thing.

I don't think anyone will see you as jumping on a bandwagon. Don't worry about that. Emotional abuse is not new in the family courts, it's just something in the press right now (and rightly so).

Have you seen the Facebook page, “Don’t Look Back” OP? She’s a DV survivor (shot by her ex) and is currently focused heavily on this.

*had me nine it
I have no recollection of what I actually wanted my phone to say here - 'had mentioned it' maybe?