Getting married soon and I have no one to ask to my wedding

[WillheiminaNoMates]

AIBU to be a tiny bit sad about having no guests from my side and quite embarrassed?

Marrying in my fiances home country so its a relief that that provides an excuse to not ask a big list of friends. I have a couple of family members I would ask but they wouldn't be able to afford it flights for example.

I'm not asking my Mum as we have a complicated relationship. I don't know if she would go if I asked her, or even really pretend like she wanted to go, and to be honest with you I'm so scared of how hurt I would be by a funny response from her I'm just not going to ask her. I have no relationship with my dad.

I know I am very lucky to love someone who loves me and be getting married by the way! We will have a lovely day, I just feel I want to acknowledge my sadness about lack of close family or friends.

Oh love that would make me sad as well. What's great though is that this wedding means you are getting a new family that you can choose and I'm sure a lot of his guests are actually your joint friends. Have a lovely wedding.

What is his family like?

Well when Meghan married Harry she only had her mum and the friends were work colleagues yet she still got up in front of the whole world to marry the one she loved and we kind of loved her for it. She must have been terrified and Harry and his family made sure she was looked after.

You will have a whole new lovely family and friends that you will be marrying into so feel blessed for that in your life. It is sad I know and acknowledge that for a brief second before feeling excited, yay.

No-one will be judging you if that's what you're worried about, they will no doubt just be relieved they don't have to accommodate unknown friends and family.

Have a lovely day and enjoy the rest of your life.

I hope you have a nice wedding and a nice new family.

I'm sorry, Will. I'm engaged and I don't have any family to invite either, it does feel horrible in a way.

DPs family will look after me and I know DP is happy to find an arrangement that doesn't accentuate my orphan-ness, but I completely understand where you're coming from.

and congratulations!

I met nearly all of my best friends after I got married, I only had one friend at my wedding...this is the start of your own family and life with your partner and I'm sure you'll have a lovely wedding day with the one you love, that's all that matters x