Due to be bridesmaid but will be v pregnant wwyd

[Napqueen1234]

Hello,

We title suggests! Due to be bridesmaid for v v close lovely friend in Nov, just found out I am pregnant baby due Jan. No concerns she will go bridezilla etc she’s lovely but what would you or have you done? There isn’t a maternity version of the dress she’s picked for us (5 bridesmaids) and I feel I’d stick out like a sore thumb with a a huge baby bump and in a different dress!

When I tell her do I offer to bow out gracefully? I’m happy to pay her for the dress she’s already bought or pay for a maternity replacement. Wondered if anyone has been in this situation and what you did!

Thanks :)

I told the bride in plenty of time. I would have been 36 weeks and was gigantic. I struggled with the day as a guest to be honest. I had poor mobility. The extra duties would have finished me off.

Oh, and she managed to find someone else a similar size. Not sure she told her she was stand in. I didn't mention it, but still arranged the hen.

Talk to the bride, see what she thinks.

I was maid of honour at 36 weeks and it was no problem. Dress was altered ( was easy style to alter in fairness). I look like a whale in the photos but bride didnt care. The only negative was missing out on the free alcohol!

Talk to the bride, but I would try and get out if it. Why not offer to do a reading? Or be a witness?

I had this wth my sister, I think I was 32 weeks at the wedding, dresses were already bought but I was able to get mine altered with extra panels added and it was fine, I had flat shoes and was dancing til the wee hours like the rest

Let her know as soon as possible. You may feel fine, only have a small neat bump or you may feel grotty and (like me) be the size of a heifer. See what she thinks. She may want you to be a bridesmaid but just do what you can cope with, rather than all the hen do, make up hair etc

Thanks for the advice so far ladies! Yes it’s second baby as well and I was like a blimp with the first so god knows what I’ll look like (although of course that doesn’t really matter if anything I may make the bride look even nicer and skinnier )

My best friend was 8 months pregnant when she was my bridesmaid. I got a dress made for her with the same fabric as my other bridesmaid. I really wanted her as my bridesmaid and she wanted to be too so all was fine!

I was bridesmaid for my friend around 33 weeks. She had the option of asking me to step down but was happy for me to not. The dress was just bought larger and altered a bit.

I really enjoyed the day but it was exhausting. It's such a long day and you're on your feet (in heels eek) for a long time.

I'm in the same boat! Very honoured to be asked by a very dear friend, didn't know I was a bridesmaid for a long time and now am expecting a baby very soon after her wedding. She is also getting married in November and I am due before Christmas in December, so I will be just less than five weeks from my due date I think. Planning on telling her as soon as the 12 week scan is done so that she still has time and options but don't want to earlier. Hope that is not selfish! Will be very happy to take part and it is a small wedding so will be as manageable as possible, which makes it easier, but I am still apprehensive! I hope she takes it well! She is a sweetheart so should be fine.

Talk to her. If she's a sane person, she'll probably be happy to wait and see what you want to do on the day. One friend of mine was a bridesmaid two days after giving birth, but had things worked out differently, of course she might not have been there at all. But the bride wanted to include her and was happy to be flexible and see what was going to work.

@Bridgetreilly two days after giving birth?! What a hero!!