To ask DH to stay in England

[QueenOfEssex]

Hello all.
My DH’s job has meant we have lived abroad for the last three years. DS was born in England but has spent most of his life abroad meaning our families rarely get to see him.
We are only a short flight away but obviously it is difficult for me to return him regularly with a toddler and while my parents visit for holidays they can’t come over as regularly as they would like.
My DH has a spell of poor health which means we are currently in England for the summer. I have been in heaven. We have seen his family and mine a lot and have loved spending time with them. DS has been in his element. It’s also lead me thinking about where we want DS to be educated. He can go to an English language school but I would rather him be educated in the UK. I am also pregnant with DS2 and would love for my mum to be around to help me and am sad about how much our family missed out on DS.
DH could easily get a job in England as he is in a specialised field and has lots of contacts in England who have asked him to come work for them. However the opportunity for growth is limited in England and he is an ambitious man. AIBU to ask him to hold back on his ambition for the reasons I’ve listed?

YANBU at all, why should the whole family's quality of life suffer for his ambition? What about what YOU want? If he goes anyway, he's not worth your time.

YANBU. Start the conversation. Now you are parents, life changes for both of you. You have done the travelling for a while, maybe you could now agree to stay in the UK for 6 years and then review after that. It might mean a compromise again then, but as a couple, you dd what was best for you at the time, and now, as a family, the 'what is best' is likely to be different.
What has happened to your career whilst you have been travelling with him ?
dh and I have both not taken opportunities that would be great for our careers over the years because it wouldn't work for our family at the time. Your priorities change when you have a family.

Yes, with poor health he needs to be prioritising family stability and networks. Tell him how lovely you have found this time in England, and that it is what you want.

You are certainly not unreasonable to have the conversation. These are decisions that have to be made as a family and your needs have obviously evolved and changed over the years. There isn’t a right or wrong answer and it may be that whatever you decide, one of you won’t be happy so make sure you both explore all the options together.