For background. I'm a sahm. Dp works a ft job and has a 2nd self employed job which is in the entertainment industry.
When we met he had a full time job, plus approx 3 gigs a week.
Overtime they dwindled down. And he had a bit of break from it. He then got back into it, on average 1 a week.. Again on top of his ft job.
I have no issue with that.
We have a 1 Yr old, and I have a dc and he has a dc who is here EOW. So sometimes those gigs fell when his dc was here. I have no issue with having his dc whist he diyf an evening. Altho in was hard. Early dinner, sorting out all the kids for baths or showers. Baby's routine etc.
For the past 6bweeks he's had no evening work, had to quit his regular one for personal reasons.
He's has since been looking with my help. He potentially has one and is going to request alternative weeks. But I have recently found out I'm pregnant.
I have just said to him that once baby born. The gigs will have to be re evaluated as its not fair for me to do the routine of 2 under 2yo. And the other 2 dcs.
He got the hump.
For context he literally would get in from his day job at 6pm. Has to leave at 7pm so literally shower, food and leave. So I would of done the entire day on my own too
I'm. Not saying not to do it. But just we'd have to re evaluate, so maybe 1 in 4.. He does it a lot for the money but also the enjoyment and social side of things.
We could survive without the money but I know he'd thro that in my face. And say that's why he does it.. But there been plenty of times that he's had breaks short or long and we've got on fine.
I'd love to get an evening job but it would get in the way of his work. And a day job is out of the question due to childcare expenses.
Hope I've covered everything