Stop trying to rain on my parade...

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Trying to work out if my colleague is U or I'm too sensitive.

I have lost over a stone since March. It's been a slow process but I'm still totally motivated. I've tuned into intuitive eating so I'm eating when I'm hungry and stopping when I'm full. It's working well so far.

My colleague has regularly said she'd like to lose weight too and she's on and off the wagon frequently. I understand her battle, I've been through if for years. It just happens to have clicked for me.

Last week she looked at me and said 'I think it's time you called it a day now, you've lost your boobs, don't be losing any more weight'. Just for perspective if still officially overweight as my BMI is 26, I'm 5ft3 and 10lb 7 so can still afford to and would like to lose some more. I just changed the subject and moved on.

Then a few days ago another colleague asked me had I lost weight and how I had done it and colleague piped up 'she's starving herself'🙄 we eat our meals together so she's sees me eating and knows I have never skipped a meal and am eating well. She just had to throw a downer on it.

There's been a few other niggly comments too and she regularly asks me how much I've lost now. I wish she wasn't so invested it's making me paranoid.

Anyone else have someone raining in their parade?

I suspect your colleague is jealous that she is battling her weight and you've done so well. As you say, you've been in her shoes. I think she's wrong for making the comments and digs but I suspect they come from a place of deep insecurity rather than being nasty. I would just try and focus on your own goals and do what's right for you. Well done too, sounds like you've done amazingly well!

It’s her issue, try to let it wash over you and don’t engage with her petty comments. Well done, you sound like you’ve found a healthy sustainable approach

They don't want you to look and feel good because it highlights their own demons. It's an ugly side of some women. The comments must be so annoying.. I've had similar issues in the past (not about weight) but with colleagues commenting on stuff every day, making me dread going to work.. the only thing that's sorted it is a frank conversation. 9/10 they get it, and carry on being on good terms. 1/10 they get the cob on and go frosty.

She’s mean and projecting her inadequacy on to you. I’m doing a slimming class with a friend and she’s a lot better at it than me but I couldn’t be prouder of her, she’s come a long way and although I haven’t lost very much I’m so pleased for her.

Well done for getting this to work for you! Years ago I tried it with the Paul McKenna CD & book. I’d have two mouthfuls and be ‘full’ hungry 5 minutes later. I really couldn’t get it sorted.

Your colleague has issues, let them be hers, not yours. Smile & nod. It’s not worth arguing about or letting it bring you down.

Thanks, I know it's her issue so I'm just trying to let it wash over me and move on. I'm trying to be supportive of her and I love going on walks at lunch time so I always ask if she wants to come. But she has a very busy social life, a lot busier than I am, and that seems to make things difficult when she's trying to lose weight.

In my experience, people talk a load of b*ocks about others' weight loss. Invariably, it is skinny people who are keenest to tell you you've gone far enough and to stop.
Just nod and smile, and do what you feel is right for you.

You're 10lb 7?

Lol, now that would be weird! 10st7lb.