Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

Snakelight doesn't that just illustrate how not a once a lifetime experience it is though?

manchester I'm in London. And I eat dinner around 8. Never been seated for a meal at 9pm at a wedding though! Anyway this is clearly not what is happening at this wedding so it's a moot point. The OPs friend will only be missing an hour and a half of a disco!

I'm on your husband's side and think the bride is BVVU.

I'd probably take off with the Liverpool suporters, even though I'm Arsenal in England.

If you’re serving a sit down meal at 9pm after an 11am wedding, then I’d have thought a number of your guests wanting to watch football would be the least of your issues. How generous were you planning on being with the nibbles?

We all are hooligans of course.

I've been going to football matches since I was a small child, all over the country. I never witnessed violence, nor drunk people disorderly behaviour. It's just thousands of people sharing a passion, often with kids. The biggest supports I know are a professor, a medical doctor and a farm owner. Calm down Hyacinth, if it's ok for Prince William, I think it's ok for the rest of us.

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It's not "just a match". It's the CL final.

To some, it is 'just a match'. Not everyone is the same.

Just like it's 'just a wedding' to some people too.

the football match will be on in the evening. The wedding surely will be well advanced by that stage.

Put it on the telly. If some people want to watch, so what. Most would probably only watch the last half hour. They will never forget your wedding later.

There are so many sports that people are interested in, you never hear so much hysteria about them. You never see flags on windows and cars and witness so many fights either. Why is that?

It seems a fair point (except perhaps about the flags, which I've seen for others too)

Nobody's suggested that every football fan's a hooligan, thank goodness, but it's still very noticeable that violence among supporters so often attaches itself to this particular game

@PCohle it absolutely isn't once in a lifetime for Liverpool fans. They have already won it once in my lifetime, 14 years ago, and have made the final twice since. It is a huge event for the city though; the only thing that would come close is England winning the World Cup.

Nobody's suggested that every football fan's a hooligan, thank goodness, but it's still very noticeable that violence among supporters so often attaches itself to this particular game

But obviously football is, by a massive distance, the most popular spectator sport in the world. Is there a disproportionate number of violent fans? Possibly, but it also has a much, much bigger fan base than other sports.

It just seems odd to make such a big deal about missing something that is demonstrably not an infrequent event, for a wedding which really is.

I'm Scottish though so really can't see the appeal of England winning the World Cup

Weddings aren't infrequent to some.
I went to 6 one year!

I think the bride & groom probably regret that e-mail now!! It has left them holding a hard line at their own wedding. They will probably have to remind/ plead with guests again during the speeches.
They should realize they are not going to win this one and rip the plaster off now.

They are for the couple getting married.

I'm a massive Liverpool fan, but this is a difficult dilemma isn't it?

I can see why your DH wants to watch it, but I can also see the Bride and Grooms pov. Tbh if it's an evening reception and a party in progress, will they even realise a couple of guests leaving to watch the match in the bar?

They might be able to put a blanket ban on their reception room, but I am positive the bar will have it on.

DD has moved GDs christening to the next week so we can all go to Madrid and watch the game. DH is from Liverpool and a huge fan travelling there regularly for games. I think B&G ABVU. A huge game and a major chance of winning after so many years and a disappointing league end.

@PCohle but this isn't just about the couple. The guests have to plans. And if like us this is the 5th or so wedding of the year by the time all the pomf is done. It's not that special.

Plus one of those weddings were divorced within a year. So I'd be doubly pissed if I missed a monumental occasion for them.

I'm really not sure what a wedding is about if not the couple. And by accepting the invitation the guests made a commitment to celebrate with them.

As other posters have pointed out Liverpool seem to make it to the final fairly often...

The day is all about them. But the disco? Let's be realistic unless Ed Sheeran rocks up if you've been to one you've been to them all.

And yes they are excellent at making the final. But they really really have a chance this time.

The day is all about them. But the disco? Let's be realistic unless Ed Sheeran rocks up if you've been to one you've been to them all.

I don't agree, some weddings can be quite memorable, they are not all blurring into a sam-ish disco, thankfully!

The actual party is just as much the wedding than the ceremony and the wedding breakfast whatever the time you host it

And again, it's about the bride and groom, it's their disco, why is it so hard to participate and make it a good night for everyone? It sounds rather rude to come, have food and leave.

The party is all about people getting together who rarely get to see each other to catch up and have a good time.

And luckily it sounds like that's what's going to happen at this wedding.

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Why do you unilaterally get to decide which bits of the wedding, that you've agreed to attend, are important? The bride and groom clearly think it's important because they've gone to the effort of telling all the guests.

Oh well if they really really have a chance this time

Because I'm a 27 year old woman who gets to leave an event when I want. Like the rest of the guests will.

They've done the important bits. They can't hold their guests hostage if they're not going to ensure a good time.