To think my DM is a bully?

[Iamtinkabella]

My DM is constantly, every single day, putting me down. Its making me feel worthless and unbelievably depressed. She drinks heavily and is very very nasty when she is drunk. Id happily go NC but adore my DF and also fear for my siblings who are young teens (large age gap between me and them). I'm unsure whether to post things she does as i assume it will out me. Things she says and does i would only assume means she absolutely hates me but i have never given her a reason to. I have no idea what to do anymore, apart from cry. I long for that loving mother/daughter bond. I am just so down. Any advice on how to deal with her and avoid my siblings having to go through this too would be appreciated.

what does your dad do when she does this in his sight/ hearing?

@meatfartalert sometimes has words with her, other times just moans that hes 'sick of all this'

You should talk to Stately Homes, you're not alone. How old are your siblings, are they still at home? What do they think of her behaviour?

There's a book, Toxic Parents (the details are on the Stately Homes thread) that you might find useful in coming up with strategies to deal with trying to have boundaries around your mother while staying in contact with your other family members. But ultimately, if she forces the issue, your family need to be responsible for deciding either to keep in contact with you or to toe the line with your mother. It's not your job to keep your mother sweet so that your family don't need to choose.

Captain Awkward also gives good advice on dealing with family and boundaries and stuff.

@toomuchtooold they are 12-15. they cry at how embarrassed they are of her, never mind at how horrible she can be. im at my wits end. ill look into those links thank you! she truelly is a vile human being.

That's hard. You don't want them to lose your good influence. Maybe LC would be better than NC.