To think the age difference matters?

[NorthernKnickers]

I've been single A LONG time...too long! Tried online dating a couple of times but it wasn't for me.

Recently met someone socially through a group (shared interest) and we 'clicked'. We get on really, really well and I'm so very happy. However...I am 10 years older, which worries me.

I know! If it were the other way round, nobody would bat an eye, but...social 'norms' being what they are (sadly!!!) I do think about it 🤷‍♀️

I'm mid-50s he's mid 40s...thoughts???

Does he have children? If yes then I don't think that it does. If no then based on the experience of friends he will end up with someone of child bearing age eventually.

10 years is nothing! Look at Joan Collins . Glad you’re happy - enjoy.

If you feel comfortable, meet up. See how you get on. You surely can't discard he possibility based on someone's age?

My dh is nearly ten years younger than me! Ben together nearly 7 years. I am 47. He is 38!! Was married before, he was 15 years older. Disaster.
Go for it op!!

10 years isn't massive, go for it

At your ages it doesn't matter at all, at the ends of the spectrum (say 16 & 26 or 70 & 80) the age gap is more likely to show itself it terms of life maturity or physical aging and ability. Or when the older partner is ready to retire but the younger one isn't.

My late-DH was 14 years older than me and in the time we spent together the age gap was irrelevant. He died at 58, so prematurely really, and we haven't gone through the aging together process. I'd rather he was still alive, but I'm glad we had each other for the time that we did.

Enjoy life now and try not to hurt anyone, including yourself, along the way. What more can you ask of it.

I'm 10 years older than my fiancé, we just suit each other... age doesn't matter, my mum is 13 years older than her husband, they've been married 23 years!

Yes,does he have children? If so age probably doesn't matter ,if he doesnt, does he want children ?

As pp have said - if your life plans are the same, it doesn't matter what age you are. If one wants children/marriage/retirement abroad/whatever, and the other one doesn't, you'll be in trouble.
If you're happy, just go for it!!

My DH is eight years older than me.

Generally the only thing that divides us is music.

Oh and I love when he says the year I went to Uni, ......I always chip in with I started secondary...

But seriously it is barely an age gap.

I can't believe that you're even concerned about the age difference, especially at the ages you both are. I'm 12 years older than my husband and it has never mattered. Relax and enjoy yourself!

I'm 8 years older than DH. It's fun when he says 'do you remember watching X kids TV show' and I reply 'No, love. I was out getting drunk and having sex'

Age gaps only matter when the youngest is young.

So like. 55 and 45 to. No-one cares

15 and 25..... Weird.

I love Joan Collins' airy response to questions about whether the age gap between her and Percy worries her: "Darling, if he dies, he dies.'

Age gaps only matter when the youngest is young.

This ^
It is about stage, not age.
There is a lot less difference between a 45 and 55 yr old than a 22 and 32 yr old.

The only issue is if it becomes serious then you will be retiring a lot earlier, this can cause issues and also problems with mortgages etc. I've capped mine age profile 5 years either side on my dating profile.

Age gaps only matter when the youngest is young.

Not always, A friend of mine at 21 married a man who was 36. She was adamant that the 15 year gap didn't matter. And it didn't, for decades. But now she's 55 and he's 70, she's full of anger and resentment that she's married to an old man, when we're all married to men of our age, in their 50s. We have active sex lives, adventure holidays, go running together etc, whilst she's stuck with this old bloke who just wants a quiet life and to potter about in his greenhouse.

A few years of retirement on your own is lovely. My lifestyle has taken a real nose dive since my younger husband retired. He’s clipped my wings.

Huge age gaps become a problem when you get older. Often twenty-something girls have daddy issues or idealized views of older men; the realism often only comes when they’re 40 and having to care for an old man

Having said that, however, I don’t think 10 years is a huge age gap.

I think it only makes a difference if he wants children. If not at your age it really is nothing.

Thanks all...yes he has children already (late teens) and definitely doesn't want more.

Good to hear that so many of you have experienced similar age gaps with no issues. I'm just going to go with it for now...tbh I didn't even know his age until we'd been dating for about a month, and by then I already 'liked' him. He's not at all bothered, but I'm aware that I'm the one who will be doing the 'aging' more quickly, so I guess that's why it's on my mind. It shouldn't be of course...why should it be ok the other way, with the man being older? It's how we are traditionally conditioned though 🤷‍♀️

My DH is 10 years younger than me and we've been together 13 years. He was late 20s i was late 30s. I have older children with XH, but DH had no children when we got together. He said he didn't feel strongly about having any of his own. When it got serious i thought hard about the implications of what would happen if he changed his mind. It's just as well because he DID change his mind and now we have a 5 year old together. We're blissfully happy together and he's 100 times the man my X was and is a wonderful father. To all four DCs.

I find our social and media experiences overlap a lot. Many of the same programes watched as kids ect. Event of video, mobile phones and internet remembered similarly. Music listened to is an interesting mix. I was a goth at first and then into the rave scene in my 20s. He went straight into the rave scene from his teens so we overlapped and actually were going to the same clubs at the same time. He often speculates about weather I might have seen him and he me back then - however i remind him i wouldn't have looked twice at a skinny little 17 year old raver when i was a 20 something no matter how lovely he probably was

My husband is 11 years younger than me. We have been together 13 years and married 10.

I'm 49 and DH is 30 and it totally works because we're right for each other. We did have some stuff to work through initially (children etc) but we dealt with it and now could not be happier