Sex - love it but can't be bothered

[babasaclover]

So when I have sex with husband he turns me on so much and literally always have good sex. I think his willy is made for me.

However life gets in the way, we both work full time have a toddler and so getting in the mood isn't easy.

AIBU to take viagra as the woman? Or is there some kind of alternative. I want to try it but don't want to buy online. Also google tells me that it doesn't make you want sex more, only enjoy it more. so for instance I'm sitting of sofa of a night in my comfy clothes (as is he). How do I get some energy up to go upstairs and do the deed?

I thought everyone called them, Stephen and the twins in honour of Ian Beale.

As unromantic and calculated as it sounds, I think you’re going to need to schedule sex

I would say try some experimenting before you go for viagra. Go to a sex shop together and pick up toys, sexy lingerie for you to wear etc. That could open up a conversation about what you both want to explore

'Steven and the twins' oh my god

@carneconchilli I found that once I stopped breastfeeding my libido soared. I also know that the pill (for me) suppresses any libido I have. I refuse to use them because they cause other problems but it was a real problem at one point.
@babasaclover I think a schedule could work like others have said. Personally I know it wouldn't help me, but if you're looking forward to it and know you'll enjoy it then go for it! Or just sit on him.its how I get my DH's attention. Boobs in the face seems to do that... 😂

Who calls a penis a willy
Probably the same people that call a stomach a tummy.

Sorry wrong topic

Fuck it I was right first time 😁

Does bf suppress sexual urges? Off to Google

Joke:
Two balls talking to one another. One says, “don’t talk to the guy in the middle, he’s a dick”

@Ginger1982 my new fave name for it 🍆

@Iboogy I thought that the suppressed libido during breastfeeding was a natural way of spacing babies apart. As in, you don’t feel like making another baby until the existing baby is off the boob. I found it a bit strange that when I had an orgasm, quite a bit of breast milk would escape

I had the opposite of this with a boyfriend, always horny but when it came to it I never wanted to do it.. I knew I was bisexual while I was with him but it took about 3 years after us breaking up and lots of experiences with guys and girls to realise I was definitely not into guys😂

I could have written this myself! So following for advice.

Not sure which PP said yes the word cock..no way!!!

That's the wonderful thing about language - many words for the same thing, nobody is hurting you using a different word and you understand what they mean so the message had been conveyed.

However being derisory about word others use is unpleasant, unnecessary and it could be hurtful.

I think his willy is made for me.

Thank you for making me giggle like a child this morning OP.

and yes, I too call it a willy.

I think that scheduling is probably the best solution, then, once you're having regular sex you'll probably find you want it more (I know I do) and start having unscheduled sex too.

Also, could you begin foreplay whilst still on the sofa? Like a really slow warm up?

Stephen and the twins

I don't think I've met anyone in real life who calls it a cock!

Definitely try scheduling it, the anticipation is great. It might sound mundane but this is what we have to do for various reasons and it works well for us. Great every time (sometimes have to go twice as the anticipation, er, speeds things up a bit).

Thanks everyone, really great to know I'm not the only one.

I'm happy with my choice of words. Willy, cock, todger- they all mean the same thing.

I'm defo gonna schedule it in - though I might keep the schedule to myself, it'll be exciting!

Also the book suggestion, I'm defo gonna look up some provocative ones. Whilst 50 shades of grey was terribly written and utterly unbelievable, it definitely had a positive effect - I think because it puts sex in your mind all the time!

Good luck everyone, we're lucky to have great husbands that we still want to shag 🤣

Thanks for reminding me of Stephen and the twins 😂

Just do it on the couch or the dining table. Fuck going upstairs (not literally... Well. Maybe)