To even consider having this baby?

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Take some professional counselling on this. It will help you make the decision that is right for you. Opinions on Mn are not a good idea

Obviously only you can decide what's right for you.

Personally, I would have an abortion.

Good luck.

It sounds like quite a chaotic and tricky period in your life. In your place I would have an abortion. But only you know what you want.

You do what feels right for you.
Guilt and fear about other people judging you shouldnt come into it.
All of us are just muddling through as best we can.

Ignore the feelings of guilt and shame.

Think seriously about whether you WANT a baby, and whether you want it with this man.

You are tied to him forever if you have it - forever. Look at where you are with your toddler’s dad - do you want that shit with two separate men?

Personally I wouldn’t have the baby but that’s irrelevant.

Just make sure you think through everything carefully.

Merry said it:
“Think seriously about whether you WANT a baby, and whether you want it with this man.”

I cant tell you what to do but i can tell you that my mum had 2 children with 2 different men at around that age and actually met my (step) dad while she was pregnant me with ( he raised us all as his own) and I met my partner 6 month after leaving my husband and fell pregnant after 6 months so you're not alone.

It is completely up to you. Only you know your full circumstances, but if you're struggling I'd approach a counsellor privately if you can afford it, just to talk it through.

The fact you say you want to keep the baby, but fear judgement etc, tells me you just need support to deal with that judgement rather than abortion itself.

If I were you I would think about the child you already have - do you think it’s best for him to have dealt with not having his Dad live with him, a bitter custody battle, then a new man and sibling thrown into the mix? Let alone the fact that you don’t know the new man very well if you and your partner split earlier this year and we’re only in mid-May.

Obviously no one can force you to have an abortion (or a baby you don’t want) but please consider your existing child not an idyllic rose-tinted view of “awww...another baby...”

Go to RELATE to have some counselling for relationships past and current. To speak in a safe space without judgement will help you make a decision that is right for you. In some areas you can be referred to Relate by your wellbeing service or GP. Try both. Go ASAP as there may be a waiting list. Take it easy

It can work, I had a 16 month old when I met current DP and had our daughter a year later. I had Two kids to two dads by 22, but me and DP have now been together 10 years and have another DS. I can't promise it'll work out like we have, but don't discount it just because of the social stigma of 2 kids to 2 dads by 22.

Also you may be classed as a priority patient in some Wellbeing Services as you are pregnant ( or have a baby up until one year) . Get some support ASAP.

I had my first at 19 had already split when born. Had my seco d at 22 with current partner. Now 31 don't let that put you off. People don't tend to judge now it's fairly common.