To hope contraception is reinvented by the time my girls need it?

[Giantsbane]

Aibu to want better contraception for my girls? Currently they're both under five so we're a long way off but I really want them to invent something that won't mess with their systems.

I took the pill aged 17-21 and it really effected me, I hated it. I had a copper coil after that with no ill effects but I don't imagine my girls would be happy to get one when they're 16 (if that's the age they need contraception). I like to think I'll teach them to tell boys no condom no sex but I know what teens are like and I know condoms can fail 😥 I'm 30 now and my husband has had he snip thank god I'm so happy I don't need to worry anymore. I hate the idea of my girls hormones and cycles and fertility being messed with.

Obviously I'm not an expert so I've no idea what I'm expecting them to invent but something

Ideally something that has no side effects, does not involve hormones, does not interfere with spontaneity, does not rely on the user’s memory and does not involve surgery....yeah....I don’t think there will ever be a perfect form of contraception, other than abstinence.

Personally I hope there's more male contraception as well. It stinks that's it's condoms or vasectomy.

I agree. I can’t use anything like coils as they freak me out, wish there was more male contraception

I'm very lucky in that I've been on the pill since I was sexually active and never had any problems at all. (Which is good as I like taking the pill and I've never wanted anything else, and I've never used condoms and never will as I hate the idea of them).
But I know people who have problems with various contraception, so I do think there should be more choice.

I wouldn’t trust a guy to be in charge of contraception (like a male pill).

I wouldn't project your experiences onto them so much.
They may be absolutely fine with the pill. In fact it may be better than fine - before I started on the pill, I had agonising and very heavy periods every month that left me faint and sent home from school every month.
There are also many other types of contraception like Mirena, Nuvaring and the implant.

So yes it would be great if there was some better non hormonal methods but please don't put your daughters off the pill because it didn't work for you

I just wish I'd listened to my mum about WAITING to have sex. I have had a copper and a mirena coil and they've been great but wouldn't have had them as a teenager, no. Implant made me lose my head, I was so not right that I had to have it removed pretty sharpish, horrid experience. The pill was similar, condoms have always worked fine for me as an adult with responsible men who respected my choices, but as you've said, teenagers aren't quite as responsible as they should be at all times. And of course none of it is 100% effective!

Some people get on fine with any kind of contraceptive, others like myself have a right old faff with it.

I'm hoping DD learns from how much I struggled as a young mother and is a bit more careful than I was.

Thing is, except for barrier methods I can’t imagine there are many possible methods of contraception which won’t involve altering the body’s hormonal balance in some way, with the inevitable side effects of that.

I’m always surprised by how little the copper coil is used in the UK and wonder what the lack of takeup is about. In many countries it’s one of the most common and popular, but has a relatively negative perception here. I love mine, wouldn’t use anything else.

And can’t think of a reason why young women wouldn’t be happy with one in their teens. I got my first one put in at 20 and as soon as it was described to me I was sold - excellent effectiveness, no room for user error, bit of discomfort for a day or so and then no need to even think about contraception for another decade. Awesome.

I considered the copper coil when I first went on the pill but I was top scared and when I did get my first one insertion was agony. I can easily imagine a 16yo being put off by the thought of it. If my girls wanted the pill obviously that would be there decision I just hope there are more hormone free options available in 10 years time.

And yes I'd love to see more male versions!

Same here OP. Well I only have sons but I hope for their future wives contraception will be easier

I hate the coil but IUD's are my only option because of my epilepsy medication, I get where you are coming from re the coil. I wasn't sexually active until I was 19 because I was scared of the insertion.

^Although having said that I have never been on the pill so maybe the coil is the better of two evils...

@happymummy12345, what do you mean you've never used condoms and you never will because you hate the idea of them?

@happymummy12345 Are you not concerned about your sexual health?