Ulrika Johnson & her husband had sex once in 8 years...

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Having outlined (in excruciating detail) the parlous state of her sex-life during her recently ended marriage, Ulrika is attracting a lot of criticism for it online.

I imagine her children are beyond mortified. But AIBU to think she is very brave, helping other women in a similar boat to feel less alone? In my 20's, I was in a relationship like this, and it left me feeling confused and insecure for some time afterwards.

I thought she was a sex addict?
Just googled and I'm obviously out of date, as that phase of her life was back in 2007.

I'd have a lot more respect for her story if she wasn't selling it

I've just read a small piece she has written related to their menopause experience which I found very helpful so I'm not going to criticise her for saying she had virtually no intimacy in her marriage's final years. Plenty of people say what about the kids?! While posting their own issues on line.

So basically a woman with kids can't share anything intimate in public

there's strictly no need for women or men to discuss their sex life in public. If any z-list man starts talking about the frequency of his intercourse with his x-wife, no one would be impressed.

onalongsabbatical it's very possible to discuss some issue without making them personal, she is just an attention seeker. Pathetic woman. To be fair, her ex did know what kind of desperate for fame individual she was.

Let’s not forget her Scandinavian upbringing (as chaotic as it was) so maybe not judge her by buttoned up U.K. standards?

I'm a man who spent six years in a sexless relationship with my ex. No kids involved. I wouldn't go on national TV and tell everyone about it in the Ulrika has. I'm not saying the issue per se shouldn't be discussed but her ex-husband's sex life is absolutely no concern of the public nor his children.

Yabbers
I am not from the UK, so I judge her by my own standards too

She spread rumours about Chris Rea having Aids. Bob Mortimer referred to it in an interview with Richard Herring. She is a neurotic attention seeking bit of a madam. And she talked about John Leslie? Was it?

Posting online is usually done in anonymity. Her partner has had his privacy violated as well.
Buttoned up?
Ok. I accept buttoned up but that's our cultural standards. Accept it for what it is.

I really like Ulrika. She has always been open about her childhood, her difficult relationship with her father and her sexual relationships. So her speaking now is nothing new.

Haven't read everything she has said currently but I think sexless marriages are simply never really spoken about and there's a lot of ignorance about it.

Men can always talk about sex, women not so much. I found it soooo refreshing when she talked about her journey as a sex addict, because few women do. She mentioned being sexually 'primed' by her father (he made her watch pornography early in life and had few boundaries bringing women home for sex and a therapist told her (on her TV program) that his behaviour constitued sexual abuse)

Ulrika would have needed some sex in any relationship. Coming from a similar background I entirely understand this.

People know about financial abuse, emotional abuse and sex and physical abuse in relationships but no one thinks about sex being withdrawn on purpose as abuse. My ex used to only initiate sex if he wanted. If I asked or attempted to seduce I was rejected every time. Eventually he withdrew sex completely. He would say he couldn't etc, was stressed but he knew how much it meant to me and I died inside and he saw me die and did nothing to facilitate making it better. He was happy to have that power of refusal.

I really feel for her but am happy she is drawing attention to this issue.

ManchesterBorn

I was about to make the same 2 points.

Why can't she talk about this without making it personal to herself and exh?

This is her exh private life too, not just hers.

So she has used her psycho sexual history as a vehicle for her public profile?
Cant see the courage in that. I see a person who needs people to help edit her compulsion to share the details of her sex life.

Ulrika draws attention to every issue she has - menopause, sexless marriage, bad back - it's all out there. Comes across as a chance to talk about herself to me, though.

She got married again? She's a rent a gob.

Well, she had a lot of sex before she met him so maybe she just used up all her orgasms.

Is she flogging a book or something?

The oversharing is brand Ulrika.

The way she talks about cheating on her first husband.

The way she says some people call her 4x4

The cheating with Sven Goran Erikson.

She doesn't seem to have a very good moral compass , and enjoys her notoriety quite a lot.

Can't see why everyone is so het up about this.

She can talk about whatever she likes- bloody hell it is only sex after all......

A lot of people suffer sexless relationships and feel too ashamed to talk about it. I don't think she should have to 'shut up' about it.

I think if this was a similar but male ‘celeb’ , I would feel so much sympathy for the pain this public revelation may cause his wife who may have a myriad of complex issues regarding the situation. Therefore it is only fair for me to feel Ulrika’s comments are ill-judged.

I think she is bringing an important topic out in to the open. The media seems obsessed about sex and how much people are having and there is a pressure for people to make it seem like they have a great sex life. Often people are too embarrassed to admit that their sex life is non-existent and I bet there loads of couple enduring sexless relationships and the numbers are far higher than people realise.

She may be allowed to talk about whatever she likes but most people have enough of a filter to consider the impact that talking will have on people close to you. She doesn’t seem to have that

Well, she had a lot of sex before she met him so maybe she just used up all her orgasms

Point proven.

Whilst I can understand that some people may feel reassured about her experience, her primary responsibility would be to her kids and her ex. I am not sure many of us would be happy if our ex partners started screaming faults that occurred in the bedroom. and might I add she puts the blame mostly on her exs shoulders.
How many here agreeing would also be comfortable with the headline- 'My ex wife was rubbish in bed'

I've just read the article in DM. here's some excerpts.

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-7038995/Ulrika-Jonsson-reveals-did-not-sex-husband-Brian-Monet-eight-years.html

She said: 'Nearly two years ago, just before my 50th birthday, I remember thinking I might have to just accept that I would never have sex ever again

The reason I thought this is because I had not had sex for four and half years. And the time before that was four years prior. I was living in a sexless marriage for nearly a decade

Despite questioning her husband on how their relationship got to where it was she felt she never got a response.

Ulrika wrote that going through menopause at the same time she was struggling in her marriage 'could't have made [her] feel worse' and hampered her confidence

Nothing she says here objectionable. She is drawing attention to the pain of being in a sexless marriage, which many people feel they cannot talk about. Female celebs talk about their relationship fails all the time. Is the objection because she's talking about sex?

Celebrity men boast all the time about their sexual 'conquests' and their sex addictions but a woman can't talk about when she's not getting any?

Male sleb or female sleb, if you have children don't talk about this in media when everyone knows who you are. It may have made her feel better but it's not all about her is it. And I'd think the same if it was a man.