About this gift?

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About 10 years ago I met someone and we fell for each other very hard and fast. We'd both very recently separated from our partners (I was still living with mine, but separate lives etc) and looking back on it that kind of threw us together. After a few intense months (talk of marriage, kids, planned the rest of our lives together) we broke up as he decided to reconcile with his Ex for the sake of their DC. I was devastated for a long time after. While we were together he bought me several gifts including a very beautiful piece of Caithness glass. I couldn't have any of it in the house after we broke up, I chucked a lot of it but a friend said she'd keep the glass in a spare room at hers.

A decade on she's downsizing and has asked me do I want it back. And I don't know what to do.

I'm now with someone else and have been for more than 5 years (no marriage/ mids/ living together though for various reasons). He doesn't know anything about this previous relationship so bringing this glass home would mean explaining all that.

So do I keep it, chuck it? I'm not sure.

Let it go and look to your future x

Sell it. Treat yourself to a bottle of wine or whatever it will fund.

Do you want it? If you do then just say it’s come a gift from your friend.

If you don’t shove it on eBay and go for a nice dinner with the proceeds 👍🏽

You don’t have to explain it. Just say your friend is downsizing and offered it to you. If you feel uncomfortable with it then sell it or give it away.

Yes just get rid of it. It sounds like you still have a lot of emotion tied in with it,

If you didn’t you would just be talking about the actual piece of glass.

I've not seen it since I gave it to friend. And yes thinking about it makes me quite sad and emotional. I'm not in a good place with my DP atm which doesn't help.

Maybe just getting shot of it permanently would be for the best.

Sell it.

I love Caithness glass! Stick it on eBay - maybe I'll see it and buy it!

Donate to charity?

Maybe I should just get rid. I can't imagine ever being able to look at it happily. And if I feel like that after 10 years it probably won't change, so there's no point keeping it.

Personally I think you should look at it before you decide. You might not feel anything at all apart from seeing something beautiful you would like to keep.

She sounds like a good friend. If you look at it again and decide you don't want it, maybe you could sell and treat you and your friend to a nice meal, day out?

Sell it and spend the money on something special that will bring you joy.

Why would you have to explain to your new partner? She's downsizing and doesnt want it, so she's given it to you - if you want to keep it. Or sell it if you dont.

Would your partner be bothered learning you had a short relationship 10 years ago anyway?

If you don't live with your DP, and want to keep the gift then shove it in the back of a cupboard somewhere?

Although sounds like getting rid would be your best bet.

Another vote for sell it, especially if you think you won’t be able to look on it happily.

Ask your friend to stick it on eBay.

I can’t imagine that (unless he’s an arsehole) your DP would care that much that ten years ago you went out with someone for a few months and he gave you a nice present. I would get it back and see how it makes you feel. If it makes you feel sad then you can sell it. If you can now just see it as a lovely object, keep it.

I would ask the friend to sell it for me and split the proceeds with her.

Sell it - its worth a few hundred quid.