about the latest family palava?

[yorkshirepudding]

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I don't think that YABU. If they have the offer of cheap B&B then they should accept it.

YANBU. They shouldnt expect to be able to stay at yours. Stand your ground.

YANBU, if they don't want to spend money on a B&B they could go back after the party.

YANBU - definitely not - I would feel exactly the same !!

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YANBU. Cheeky sods. If they won't come purely because they can't sponge off you, make sure you (subtly ) let the rest of the family know (esp about the cheap B&B offer)

don't give in !!

STand your ground!

Maybe they cannot afford the B&B?

However, if this is the case, they should drive back after the party. The cheek of them!

Don't give in, if you stand your ground now, hopefully they will not ask again.

And, as presumably you have let them stay before so they now take it for granted, this is your chance to set a new precedent so they don't come again either - they sound like horrible guests.

X-post, LLL

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YANBU - you should def not give in to them. If they won't come just because they can't be put up for free then they are the ones that are missing out not you. If they do not come and your dad asks them why they weren't there then they will be the ones sounding pathetic when they say no-one would put them up. Especially if other people are quite prepared to drive and not drink.

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Do they not realise that you are going on holiday the following day too ? - they sound very selfish. And they don't live that far away !!

OMG

YANBU

The only relevant pieces of information in your first post are that

1. you don't have space to accommodate them
2. you have plans that make it impossible to accommodate them

and the most important of all
3. you didn't invite them to stay and were (presumably) polite in your refusal of their request

If they choose not to come to the party because they can't stay with you then it is they that are denying your father the pleasure of their company, not you.

And how dare they complain to people that you're tight! You are hosting a large party for your family. That's a very generous thing to do.

Be sure to let us know the outcome.

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Besides, wouldn't other friends and family be a bit put out if they have to find a B&B while this family member gets to stay free at your place.

YANBU - you are under no obligation to put them up and it's not tight at all

It is the going on holiday next morning thing that is the clincher for me.