To put my daughter in nursery for nearly 50 hours this week

[riotlady]

My daughter is booked in to attend nursery full-time, which is 8-5.30 5 days a week. She never actually goes this much as I’m a student so usually have a day off during the week (when I’m not on placement) and can often pick her up early as well.

This week I’m off but partner and I have both contracted a horrible stomach virus. I’ve had diarrhoea and vomiting since Monday, can’t even keep water down, am lightheaded, exhausted, etc and spending half my time in the bathroom.

So far we’ve managed to avoid little one picking it up (she’s nearly 14 months)- we’ve been washing our hands before we touch her or anything of hers and dettolling like mad. We’ve been sending her in to nursery for the full hours. I was hoping I’d be well enough to keep her home with us tomorrow but honestly I still feel terrible and I haven’t stopped vomiting. I feel really guilty putting her in nursery for such long hours when I’m at home but do you think it’s alright as it’s just one week?

Next week I have a very light week at uni so hopefully she’ll only be in about 24 hours.

My toddler does 44 hours a week every week during term time. So no I dont see a problem with it at all. She is being a lot better cared for (because you are ill and if like me just not up for toddler entertainment) and having a lot more fun at nursery.

Totally fine considering the circumstances!! Hope you feel better soon!

I think this post is a bit offensive to those of us who have to use full time nursery!

@seven201 oh ffs. In what way is it offensive?

Has op said she thinks parents who put their children into nursery full time are awful?

If you're offended it's because of your own insecurities, not because of anything op has said.

Yanbu. Needs must and you need to rest.

About passing it on. I thought it's only contagious after vomiting started? I recently shared a plate of food with a friend. An hour later she started vomiting, but I didn't catch it.

Of course you’re not unreasonable...
Much more fun for her than sitting around with I’ll parents !

Hope you feel better soon x

It's totally fine. Dd was in 45ish hours per week from 6 months old through to starting school. She thrived and had great relationships with the staff and us when back home. In your case it's the sensible choice.

It's not too much - many many parents have their child in nursery full time (myself included). Don't worry :-) look after yourself x

@seven201 I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to cause upset. I don’t judge anyone for using nursery and I don’t usually feel guilty for having her in for longer hours when I’m on placement, it’s just that I’m technically on holiday at the moment so it’s the fact that I’m at home while she’s there that was making me feel a bit guilty!

@kaytee87 I did only say "a bit offensive". And yes it does play to my insecurities. It touched a nerve, that's all. I didn't have a go at her, I was just pointing out that a lot of people have little choice. I hope you feel better soon op.

Personally I would prefer the child to be with me and bored than in a nursery but its up to you what you do.

Seems a bit tough on your poor kid!

OP YANBU - you clearly can’t provide better care than nursery when you’re so ill, and she will be absolutely fine. Hope you feel better soon

Cross post there @riotlady . Sorry for my post, I didn't mean to offend either. I should have stayed quiet! Hope you feel better soon.

Gosh op. Nursery is the best place for her.

You have no energy other than basic needs she will be much better off there this week.

I think this post is a bit offensive to those of us who have to use full time nursery!

I don't think it's offensive. I think there are very few people who would put their 14 month in full time nursery if they were at home not working. I don't think full time nursery is terrible but for most people it's a compromise they make to allow them to continue to work rather than an ideal situation.

I was going to say that's too much, but as a one off under difficult circumstances, absolutely fine
Bit offensive to those of us who have to work full time and do this every week.

Yanbu op at all. Hope you feel better soon!

So according to one poster we need to keep kids at home if someone else in the family is ill and they might catch it!!!
That would work wonders for school attendance figures and also I am sure a lot of bosses would take it really well that a member of staff was off work looking after their child in case they got ill