dd 15 unsupervised sleepover.

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so my dd has just come home from school and asked to go and stay at her friends on saturday while her mum is in london. Im not sure if im overreacting as straight away my instinct is to say no. Its not that shes ever given me reason to not trust her except the eating rubbish when im not around and deliberately staying up til morning at sleepovers.
my other concern is she has a mock test on tuesday. She says she will revise she goes on Saturday and when she gets home. Is 15 too young unsupervised overnight and am i being too strict re test tuesday?

If you don't allow her to do anything the weekend before a mock she won't be doing very much for the next few years in all honesty. However 15 is probably too young to be left without an adult in a friend's house. You also probably need to be a bit less strict on her food choices and bedtimes on special occasions such as sleepovers.

thanks im not usually too strict around sleepovers etc just was concerned she would be up all night saturday then come home sunday and sleep instead of revising.

I wouldn't be concerned so much with a sleepover a few days before a mock. And it actually might do her good to have some proper downtime without thinking about school or revising. With the test being on Tuesday she still has Sunday afternoon/evening and Monday to do some revision.

I would be more concerned with unsupervised sleepovers depending on both your daughter and the friend's level of maturity.

At 15 my mother would have trusted me absolutely. I actually would probably have had my boyfriend over for a shag and gotten pretty drunk.

YANBU. A 15-year-old is not responsible enough to be left alone with a friend for the weekend.

I'm being serious here.

In principle I don't object to her having a sleepover over the weekend, even with exams coming up. Rather, it's the unsupervised part where I have a problem. Teens don't have the best judgement because their brains are still developing. Not to mention they're very easily influenced by the crowd. (This is a documented fact in psychology.) Consequently, even if your DD is very responsible, she could still get swept up in the moment with a friend and end up doing something irresponsible.

Unsupervised? No way.