Had a curveball while talking to exH's sister. (DD has more of a relationship with his wider family than with him and we're on good terms.)
She suddenly dropped into conversation that exH had told her recently that he had never wanted kids. (DD, aged 9, was sitting at the table listening and her aunt quickly backtracked with all "but of course as soon as you were here he was glad etc..." That's a subject for a whole other AIBU post.)
My eyebrows hit the ceiling and I told ex-SIL that he never mentioned this to me and we had been in complete agreement on the subject of children as far as I knew. If we hadn't been, I certainly would not have married him in the first place.
We discussed children before and during our marriage, agreeing that we
both wanted children once we hit our thirties. I used to chart my cycles and we had lots of very detailed conversations about contraception over the years. The week DD must have been conceived, I even remember saying explicitly to exH that it was possible, although not likely, that I could get pregnant that month if we dtd without using contraception...
I imagine that ex-H said he never wanted kids as an excuse to his sister for why he pays no maintenance, does no childcare and has very sporadic contact. I'm long past anger and into cold contempt on this score.
If it's actually true, I think I would be angrier than I've been with him for years.