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AIBU?

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Original poster

...to think if you're having a day of noisy building work and you KNOW your NDN works from home...

84 replies

Saltysea2001 · 16/05/2019 09:45

...and that their DS is in the middle of their A-levels, you let your neighbours know, as a matter of courtesy, so they can make alternative arrangements.

So.
Fucking.
Annoying.

OP posts:
wellballstoyou · 16/05/2019 09:48

sorry the world doesnt stop for you love!

normal life goes on. your ds could go to a libary/ school even.

EskeewdBeef · 16/05/2019 09:55

They possibly didn't anticipate just how much noise it would make.

Is it too late to work/study somewhere else?

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 16/05/2019 09:57

In my experience people having building work done don't give a stuff about the amount of disruption it causes.

Probably unfair but it's happened too many times.

RomanyQueen1 · 16/05/2019 09:58

Perhaps they don't know ds is doing A levels and if they've never worked from home, wouldn't consider the impact.
I'm not sure I'd think to tell neighbours unless elderly, might mention in passing if I saw them.

Bunnybigears · 16/05/2019 09:59

It would have been nice of them but surely it's not too late to make alternative arrangements now.

Tohaveandtohold · 16/05/2019 10:01

It’s courteous but they don’t have to. To be honest, how are they to know that you work from home or that your son is studying.

Original poster
Saltysea2001 · 16/05/2019 10:02

They KNOW I wfh, they KNOW DS is in middle of A-levels. I'm not suggesting the world should stop for me (@wellballstoyou) I'm suggesting it would be polite, neighbourly even, to mention predictable noisy building work.

Of course we can both relocate. It's inconvenient, but there we go. That wasn't the point.

As ever, my world view is so different to the Mumsnet masses. It just seems obvious to me that its just ac courteous thing to do. Bizarre.

OP posts:
areyoubeingserviced · 16/05/2019 10:06

YABU. What do you expect them to do?
I have builders in.
I just ensure that they don’t start work until 9am and finish by 5pm. They don’t come at the weekend

Original poster
Saltysea2001 · 16/05/2019 10:08

I expect very little. I think it would be polite to let me know that they have noisy work given the scenario I outlined. I'm NOT asking them not to do the work.

OP posts:
Summerorjustmaybe · 16/05/2019 10:08

Ime neighbours get a kick out of being a twat.
Ime the more noise they (he) can inflict on us the better.
Yanbu to be pissed off op.

Disfordarkchocolate · 16/05/2019 10:09

For a days work I wouldn't expect anyone to tell me, and I'm very unlikely to remember anyone is doing their A-levels unless I have birth to them. I had 6 hours of neighbours grass cutting and strimming yesterday, it's just urban life I'm afraid.

notoafternoontea · 16/05/2019 10:10

YANBU. Of course you'd let them know. Anything else is just rude.

Years and years ago we lived in a terrace house and I was working from home. The builders next door started drilling. I went in and said, I'm so sorry, I have a call at 2pm for an hour will you be drilling then as I'd go somewhere else (I was going to do it from the car!) and they said, no, no, they'd not drill then.

1.58, the drilling stopped, 3.02 it started. I was lucky the call ran to time Grin

And I live in unfriendly it's not London!

Gigglinghysterically · 16/05/2019 10:10

I would, out of courtesy, let my NDN know I was having work done and especially if I knew they worked from home or had someone revising for exams.

I assume, as your NDN know your circumstances, that you get on okay so I'm surprised they haven't said anything. Perhaps they just don't realise how much noise there is?

PutyourtoponTrevor · 16/05/2019 10:10

You're not being unreasonable OP, just common courtesy to let you know, my neighbours do.

Some cuntish replies on here

RussianSpamBot · 16/05/2019 10:10

I'd have mentioned it.

Bluebelltulip · 16/05/2019 10:11

I agree that it is polite to give a bit of notice. As you said you are not expecting them to not do it you just wanted them to have warned you. We recently had some work done and our neighbour works shifts, I told him a few weeks before as I thought this would be preferable to being woken up if he had been on a night before.

HomeMadeMadness · 16/05/2019 10:12

Only a day? I think it would be polite to mention it but they probably just didn't think it would cause so much of an issue. I work from home and would have probably just closed the window and got on with it or wandered down to the local library/coffee shop. Different people have different sensitivities to noise.

Fraxion · 16/05/2019 10:12

I would let my neighbours know. I used ear defenders/earplugs when studying as I need absolute silence, can't concentrate otherwise.

Buster72 · 16/05/2019 10:14

How much notice do you require? A day a week?
And what would you do if you recieved adequate notice? Move to a hotel for the duration? Or buy some earplugs for DS??
YABU.

TheOrigBrave · 16/05/2019 10:15

I've just had 2 days of doors and windows being replaced. I told my nearest neighbours. They also moved their cars so the van could get near to my house.

I like living here.

I work from home and I think my neighbours would give me a nod if it was going to be noisy. I can work wherever there is wifi so can easily decamp to the library.

Bambamber · 16/05/2019 10:17

I know how you feel. My neighbours know I work nights, and didn't bother to let usknow they were having both their back and front garden completely ripped up and paved over. A week of absolute hell, not just the noise but them completely blocking the path to my house. If they let me know I would have arranged to stay elsewhere for the week.

ScreamScreamIceCream · 16/05/2019 10:17

Depends on how well you get on with the neighbours.

I randomly work from home so I don't expect to be told when my neighbours have builders in unless they realise.

However I do expect the builders not to dump things in front of my property without asking me or apologising for doing so when they realise I'm around. The last lot who did that found their items in the middle of the pavement as they went out of their way to avoid me.

squirrelspatchcock · 16/05/2019 10:19

The world may not revolve around you, but a bit of consideration to each other makes it a better place!

Therefore YANBU in my opinion. Would have been considerate to let you know, especially if your properties are close.

I too would have been irritated.

DarlingNikita · 16/05/2019 10:19

I'm very unlikely to remember anyone is doing their A-levels unless I have birth to them.

Grin Yes, totally agree.

If a neighbour was having a good few days or more of building work done, I'd like to know (and I'd tell my neighbours if I was) but for a day, I wouldn't be at all upset if someone didn't tell me.

DelphicOracle · 16/05/2019 10:20

YANBU OP - I would always tell neighbours and mine always tell me... ditto if Im having a party / they are going away / hey are going away and having relatives to stay in their house / their baby has been crying alot.... I think its just about kindness.

I have never fallen out with nay of my neighbours about building work or anything.... maybe thats because we talk to them and manage their expectations!