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AIBU?

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AIBU to sell my rings three years after my divorce?

16 replies

Newnewnewnames · 15/05/2019 21:21

I chose to leave, he's an idiot, not really on good terms.
2dc who stay every other weekend.
He pays CM and not s single penny more (uniform, trips, clubs activities - all "my choice to buy them")
I'm skint and need the money.
Should I feel weird to sell them?
WWYD?

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Moondancer73 · 15/05/2019 21:23

I'd sell them. Be warned though, you won't get as much as you think - I've been in your situation and I was disappointed with the money I got.

OhTheRoses · 15/05/2019 21:25

No. How much do you think they are worth?

Summerorjustmaybe · 15/05/2019 21:25

I sold mine when I got my absolute and paid for a night out with a friend..

EL8888 · 15/05/2019 21:25

I sold mine before the divorce was finalised and spent the money on myself. Sadly as the previous poster said l only got a fraction of what they were purchased for

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Newnewnewnames · 15/05/2019 21:30

Had an offer around £550.
Will pay some bills and put my mind at rest a bit.

Somehow I feel I should keep them for DC? But no idea why, am not usually sentimental.

Did you feel sad? Should I ?!?

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Justmuddlingalong · 15/05/2019 21:35

I booked a long haul holiday and spent the money on cocktails. Totally frivolous, never had a nanosecond of guilt. In your situation though, if you need to do it to get out of a hole, I'd do it.

CaptainJaneway62 · 15/05/2019 21:35

Definitely sell them and use the money and put your mind at rest.
And sell anything else that the idiot might have left behind!

I absolutely didn't feel sad selling them as I was in the same situation...desperately needed the money for bills.

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Newnewnewnames · 15/05/2019 21:46

Unfortunately I had to flee the house when he was at work so was only able to take a few things. Had to buy new everything and it really added up - things like kitchen pans, lawn mower, bath towels etc plus all new bedroom furniture and beds for DC.
Thank you - you've made me feel better.
They'll be going in the morning!

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Starlight456 · 15/05/2019 21:55

I sold mine and did a supermarket shop with it . I don’t regret it .

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 15/05/2019 22:07

I sold them 2 months after we separated only got 50 pounds for a 9k wedding band with little diamonds in and a solitaire ring,they work it out on weight not the diamonds unfortunately.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 16/05/2019 00:59

Being it wasn't a happy marriage u wouldn't want to pass on!

Sell them you need the dosh now!

GiveMeFiveMinutes · 16/05/2019 03:04

If I were you, I would sell your wedding ring at any "cash for gold" type place, and put your engagement ring up for auction with a reputable auction house.

stormsurfer · 16/05/2019 07:22

I sold mine and paid for the half of the cost of the divorce with it- seemed fitting and I don't regret it.

Rachie1973 · 16/05/2019 07:24

I sold mine. He wouldn’t pay any maintenance and my business was collapsing, so was struggling to feed and clothe the kids.

Got to mid August and started panicking about uniforms etc. Thought ‘fuck it’ sold the rings. Got the uniforms.

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Newnewnewnames · 16/05/2019 08:17

Thank you everyone - so that's 100% for selling. I'll get on with it!

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Mermaidkisses · 16/05/2019 10:32

I have just sold mine ... we separated 9 months ago. Sold my wedding ring at a cash for gold and my engagement ring on ebay. Didn't get much but it was good to get rid of them, the cash will pay to have a cover up on my wedding band tattoo :)

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