Me and STBXH seperated September last year for a variety of reasons, mostly to do with him being crap with money and lying.
He recently said he wants to give things another go. I was in 2 minds as he got quite abusive when we split, forcing his way into the house etc. I eventually said I was willing to give it another go but I wanted to go back to dating and basically start again. He agreed and we went on a 'date' to the cinema and a meal. It was actually really nice. However now everytime he comes to pick up dc he acts like he lives here, he will make himself coffee and has even taken a beer out of the fridge all without asking. He hates the house share he lives in and part of me feels like he just wants to be back in the house not with me.
I especially felt like that on Monday. I was extremely sick and rang STBXH whonwasnt working and asked him to come and take dc3 (20 months) as I couldn't even stand up and I was throwing up every few mins. Dc3 was destroying the bathroom as I tried to watch him while being so ill. He moaned that I was ruining his day off but eventually agreed to come and get dc3. He finally turned up an hour later (he leaves literally around the corner). He took dc3 for the day and collected dc 1&2 at 3. He came back and cooked them dinner and put them to bed etc. He said he would stay and make sure they were definetly asleep etc. I was really grateful for the help and I thanked him. However the next day I got up the kids toys were all over the floor, their school bags were dumped in a heap by the door and every thing dc3 had pulled out of the bathroom cupboard was still all over the floor (toilet rolls, toothbrushes, sanitary items etc). The bathroom was discusting where I'd been sick. I didn't expect him to clean it just pick up the items off the floor. I mentioned it today and he just snapped 'well I don't bloody live there so it's not my problem'.
Aibu or would someone trying to fix their relationship have actually put a bit more effort in?