This is wrong isn’t it?!!

[HotChocolateLover]

I can’t stop thinking about this and am very upset. I’m epileptic and had 3 seizures last Friday, 15 minutes in length. It’s the worst i’ve Been in a long time. It was an emergency hospital admission where I was intubated as I was struggling to breathe and before the ambulance arrived at home DH was about to start resuscitation. I’m covered in bruises and feel like shit.

Anyhow, whilst DH was with me is recus and the doctors were basically saving my life, his ex-wife wouldn’t stop texting him. Even when he said he couldn’t speak because of what was happening. She called him a liar and a shit dad and wanted to know what was wrong with me and a picture to prove it ☹️ I just think she’s gone too far this time. I’ve never done a thing to her and this has upset me so much.

Gosh poor you! I wouldn’t really think about the ex wife. You can’t control what she does. He should’ve ignored his phone whilst all that happened

I’m sorry you’re so ill. I hope you start to feel better soon.

It does sound like his ex is a nightmare as that is excessive. However, is there a background? Does your husband have form for cancelling arrangements with his children at the last minute? Has he lied to her before?

If he has, then her anger and asking for proof of the situation is probably justified.

If he hasn’t, then yes she is out of order, he needs to address it. He also needs to not be texting her when you’re having treatment. A quick text to say you’re ill, can’t talk then switch the phone off would be more appropriate.

It's not right, she has no right to information or photos of you in a vulnerable state. He should have switched off the phone

In 4 years he has missed one weekend which was because the two kids were too ill to come and we live 100 miles away. He has been late once. He never misses a maintenance payment, goes to school plays, parent evenings. We also taken them abroad once a year and have then alternative Christmas/NewYear. There was no need for doubt, it wasn’t even his weekend to see them.