Nursery worker exchange

[Storkbloom]

DP had a day off work today and we all went to the park... DSD is 3.3, today we had been at the park for hours, playing football etc, she had walked a lot. On the way home she was a moody, lagging, asked to sit in the pushchair. We usually still bring it out if we are going to be out for more than a quick trip, just in case. She asks for it when she wants it, or if she is having a tantrum and throwing herself on the floor then I will strap her in (issue when I have extra bags etc so cannot carry her).

We needed to pop into a shop on the way home just to grab a few bits we would need for dinner, the shop was small so I waited outside, DD was relaxing, dp went in.

Then a staff member from her nursery saw us, recognised me, and said "you have no shame! No shame!" I was very confused, probably looked it, as she carried on "what have you got her in the chair for!?" I explained we'd been out all day and she was hot and tired, and before the nursery worker left she said "you should stop babying her and have another one"

Now, she said all this with a smiley face, so I assume if was supposed to be ""banter"" but AIBU to feel she was out of place, was she BU? Of am AIBU to still have DD in buggy sometimes? Or was this exchange fine and I should get over it?

I’d be having words tomorrow. But I’m not great at ‘banter’ if that’s what it was.

Deeply unprofessional.

Appalling attitude. Even if it was in a jokey manner was there really a need?

As a nursery worker surely she would understand that little ones get tired easily and each and every child is different. I mean she’s 3! 3 year olds only have little legs and get tired easily and taking a stroller is a whole lot easier than dealing with a stroppy child who refuses to walk.

I will admit that DD who is nearly 4 sometimes still uses a stroller (for shopping in town, long walks) but she does have hyper mobility so her legs do ache after a lot of exercise!

Unprofessional imo.

As soon as she said what have you got her in buggy for I would’ve told her to mind her own business. You don’t owe her an explanation.

That is outrageous! "Have another one" what is that woman smoking?!

YANBU- Yes that’s so unacceptable and patronising.

My dd is 3 and so I put her in the pushchair with my youngest, they get tired, walk when they want and sit down when they want, plus it’s sometimes faster so I don’t give them the choice or if it’s chaotic eg a airport, and generally I wouldn’t mind a seat if I was eg sitting in shops all day whilst someone else shopped so I put her in on moments like that when I’m shopping!

Wtf, that’s insane behaviour on her part and very unprofessional! Do what you like with your own stepdaughter and mention to the nursery next time you go in that she tried to publicly embarrass you.

I’d be having a word today and tell her her behaviour was inappropriate.

Let it go. The time to deal with these things is at the time (although I accept this is easier said than done in the heat of the moment!). To say something to her now looks very strange and she may not actually remember the exchange. She sounds rather odd, bit not malicious. Some people are like that, I think - they mean well/are trying to be funny, but lack either the verbal prowess or the social skills to do it successfully.

This is totally out of order!.I worked p/t in a Nursery and would never think of speaking to anyone like that. Its none of her business .If you wanted another one or not!.

Wow, does this woman never drive anywhere or take the bus???

She was rude, but you should have dealt with it at the time.

She sounds rather odd, bit not malicious. Some people are like that, I think - they mean well/are trying to be funny, but lack either the verbal prowess or the social skills to do it successfully.

I agree with this. From what you’ve said it sounds more like an incredibly clumsy attempt to be funny. Personally I’d let it go and feel a bit sorry for her.