WIBU - To cut or not to cut?

[HowDidSheGetTheFuckingScissors]

Who is being unreasonable...

Backstory: Have namechanged because anyone who sees us at the school gates tomorrow will fucking know this is me. 4 year old DD SOMEHOW got hold of the scissors. AGAIN. Since the last hairgate they have been carefully guarded but someone fucked up. I hope it wasn't me, but it probably was.

Anyway. Having spent 4 years growing out her 'feathers' (very wispy and slow to grow) she has decided to hack roughly 4 inches off the side of her head, from the front to past her ear, going almost to the scalp in places. Photo attached for shock value informative purposes.

I told her to go (the fuck) to sleep and I would cut the rest to match in the morning. This is not punishment, I do actually do everyone's hair in the house. If, upon waking, it seems beyond me I will take her to a hairdressers. I suspect she will need an AA Milne Christopher-Robin style bob to make it look vaguely presentable.

DH has put his foot down (unusual in matters such as this) and said I am not to cut, or cause to be cut, a hair on her head. He reckons she won't see it as necessary after her self-administered actions, but the cruel and unusual punishment of Cross Mummy.

He just went up to talk to her and apparently she cut it because she didn't like the curls and thought it would grow back right away, and get longer if it didn't have curls. 4 year old logic

So ... who's being unreasonable here? Me for trying to even her up or him for leaving her lopsided?

Also, just as an aside, my son is growing his hair out. People are going to think I'm making some kind of fucking statement with my ponytailed boy and my short back and sides girl.

Also, if anyone has any soothing words of wisdom so I won't be so upset I would very much appreciate them. Who knew one could be so attached to someone else's dead protein strands.

Can she wear it up?

Don't do any more amateur hairdressing!
Let your DD decide what she wants to do with her hair and stop cutting it yourself. Keep telling her what beautiful curls she has so she doesn't end up trying to cut them off again.
(Back story here: my mum was always moaning about my curly hair and made me hate my hair.)

Just to be clear - I didn't do this, she did. And the most haircut she has had before was about 2mm 6 months ago so I could get the brush through it! I do do DH's hair though, and DS's, before he started growing it.

I also wax lyrical about her curls, but she wants Rapunzel hair, or hair like Mummy's, or like Evie at preschool...etc. My love for her curls means nothing to her

Bellatrix - yes, that's the lay of the land. And you make a good point about doing the tidy up in a few days so it's not 'connected' to the misbehaviour and seen as a punishment. I wonder if I could send her in a headscarf like a wee russian girl or something? (Joking. Sort of)
Russian headscarf look

StillCoughing there are long curls on the other side, too. Perhaps I could try sending her as TwoFace from batman, with instructions to only let people see one side of her at a time....

Turpy...wear it up? Not really. There's only about an inch-long tuft behind her ear! Not sure but it might just draw attention to that bit if the rest is scragged back! Appreciate the suggestion though. Perhaps if I just cover her in hairclips....

Girls cut and dry cost £9-12 in most salons where I'm from

Google asymmetrical haircuts, there is a little girl at my sons school who looks beautiful with one, it's pretty much graded on one side. I always thought it was intentional in her case, but sure something similar might work.

so maybe she doesnt want the curls.you said you lt her choose but if your always going on about her beautiful curls

Just keep thanking your lucky stars she didn't seriously hurt herself.

The asymmetric cut is a great idea.