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AIBU?

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AIBU to hate living in a houseshare?

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ImposterSyndrome101 · 14/05/2019 19:37

Usually it's fine but I'm increasingly unhappy living with one of my housemates. She's one of my closest friends but I'm finding more often than not I hate living with her. She's often one of the biggest CF I know and her mood swings when she's had a bad or stressful day are really starting to piss me off because while we live with five other people people her moods are always directed at me. And other housemates have commented on her attitude and behaviour but only I call her out on any of it and she honestly thinks that she's a delight.

Like right now I'm sitting in the lounge working on something on my laptop, with my laptop on my knee. My stuff is out of the way and I'm not making any noise and yet she's had a massive temper tantrum about me being in here because she wants to watch a film with another housemate because I'm 'in the way' and my typing is annoying her. For reference we have a two seater and three seater sofa and I have headphones on with nothing playing, just to dampen the noise of the film.

AIBU to refuse to go sit in my room instead of the communal area when I'm not doing anything to be disruptive or taking up more than my share of the space or made any protest about her putting the bloody film on anyway.

I need to cook in 20 mins anyway and she's going to complain about that but I need to eat and I can't help that the kitchen is attached to the lounge. Tbh I'd normally go right to my room after eating anyway but today I feel like sticking around just because she doesn't want want me in the room.

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FairyBunnyAgain · 14/05/2019 21:49

You are at uni, this is normal house share drama. One DC hated it and ended up dropping out, the other is thriving.

Your friend is a drama llama, can’t you share with someone else next year? Are you on Summer break and able to go to family soon or is this your permanent residence?

ImposterSyndrome101 · 14/05/2019 21:56

@FairyBunnyAgain, permanent residence at the moment. This is my second year living with her. She was nowhere near as insufferable last year. And we've signed the forms for the next year.

One of our other housemates is moving somewhere else and I may ask if I can find someone to take my spot if he'd mind me moving with him because he's not found anywhere yet.

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mouldyhousemouldylife · 15/05/2019 00:02

Yanbu. Houseshares destroyed my mental health, I'm in one right now. Can't wait to live alone ...

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 15/05/2019 00:16

YANBU my last house share nearly broke me. She was messy, dirty, inconsiderate and stupid to boot, with vile taste in furnishings. I was hoping she'd be my last but my house purchase broke down Sad so moved in with someone else again. New housemate is an angel and I love her, but I still want to live alone. It's easier for me to buy than pay through the nose monthly for a shitty studio- decent one beds near me are very rare. After uni I would never consider living with more than 1 more person.

I actually cried at the thought of buying a bigger flat & letting a spare room out. The money would be great but the thought of other people's mess, ugly furnishings, bad habits and routines that interfere with mine in my own home... I know I'm being a bitch but right now I just can't.

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