To be unhappy that he put dirty fingers in my baby's mouth?

[YesHeIsMyFirstBaby]

Would it bother you if someone had been gardening with no gloves on, then put their finger in your baby's mouth, without washing hands in between?

The someone is my father-in-law and the baby is 4 months old. I wasn't aware he had just been gardening at the time. I want to tell him that I'm not happy about that, but my husband doesn't think I need to mention it.

They are keen to babysit in the future, so I would like reassurance that he will be a bit more careful with him. And also, why wouldn't you wash your hands after gardening, even if you weren't going to put your fingers in a baby's mouth?!

On the other hand, the baby's at a stage where he's putting everything he can reach into his mouth, so I know he'll be getting all sorts of germs anyway. And my FIL already thinks I'm being precious with him because I was fussing about keeping him out the sun...

Genuinely have no idea whether I'm right to feel like this or if I should just let it go!

A 4 month old baby shouldn’t be in the sun.
And nobody should put dirty soil (and possibly cat/fox/badger wee/poo) covered fingers in anybody’s mouth.
You aren’t being PFB. It is grim.

Who the hell puts their fingers into a babys mouth?
Clean or not, Just why?
Was the baby choking?

He shouldn't have done that but I would let it go. Your baby is old enough to be developing a very good immune system and a little bit of dirt will do him no harm. might even help his immunity develop! However, it is not something your FIl should be doing. rather than mention it, next time he comes in from the garden and is heading for baby, ask him if he would mind washing his hands, Personally I wouldn't want his fingers in the baby's mouth anyway but it isn't worth bad feeling

Why didn't he wash his hands after gardening? Just disgusting full stop.

That is disgusting - why put fingers in a baby's mouth in the first place? YADNBU

Calm down, let it go. Your baby is completely, entirely fine.

Why is he putting this finger in your baby's mouth? Irrespective of whether his hands are clean or not, that's just weird. Really weird.

I'd be annoyed too

Was baby looking to chew on something when he used his finger?

Ps- I let DD chew on my washed fingers as when she tries to chew on her own she ends up gagging. It brings her comfort in the horrible teething stage (she's 5 months).

@Serin It was more he was letting the baby grab his fingers and put them in his mouth, which a few people have done and doesn't bother me too much, but the fact he was gardening beforehand is going a bit far I think!

Oops posted too soon. Yes I'd be annoyed but realistically nothing bad will happen to your baby. And the germs will do them some good! Kids get all sorts of crap into their mouths over the years!

Would still piss me off though as it's just grim and no one should purposefully shove fort into a baby's mouth.

When my first was a few months old a COMPLETE STRANGER put their fingers in his mouth to feel his gums and asked if he was teething

Ps I love your username!!

YANBU, I’d be pissed off too.

Soon your pfb will be trying to lick puddles on the garden path and eating soil so I wouldn’t worry.
He didn’t forcefully put his fingers in the baby’s mouth, the baby was playing with them.
You don’t need to make this any sort of issue, get a geip

Thank you for all the opinions. I think I'll just mention it casually next time I see him without making a big deal of it, just to put my mind at rest!

I am aware the baby will be out in the garden eating soil himself before too long, but I'd like to think if the FIL was supervising he would try to stop him...