Husband is a stay at home dad to our 3 children. I recently found out he’d cheated on me some time back and I don’t feel it’s something I can forgive in the long term. He desperately wants reconciliation. At this stage we get on ok, I just don’t feel romantic feelings for him now.
I’ve just been offered my dream job overseas (interviewed before I found out about his affair). Both the job and the location are something I’ve always wanted to do.
I couldn’t (and wouldn’t) take the kids to live overseas without him. I can’t do it legally without his approval and he’d never give it. I wouldn’t do that to the kids anyway.
I have been completely devastated by the loss of this dream and was chatting to a friend yesterday, who suggested going together with him and worrying about the longer term relationship side of things once we’re there. I do know it would mean I couldn’t get divorced unless he had his own working visa there, or achieved some kind of residence status, but I’m in no hurry to be thinking about divorce anyway.
Is it a completely mad idea? I hadn’t considered this until she mentioned it but it is an appealing option.
Not sure how it would work logistically. I suppose we would either co-habit or rent two smaller places.