Aibu to start going out with friends?

[PassMeTheWine]

Me and DH have been together a long time, children etc but I haven't been out with my friends in almost 3 years. He on the other hand has been out at least once a month while I'm with the children holding the thought. We do occasionally go out with each other (once every 4 months) but it usually ends in arguments and me going home..
Don't know what I'm asking for really but maybe need to get this off my chest..i suppose I just want some me time. Thanks for reading x

Me time is SO IMPORTANT! You must spend time with your friends without DP if only to talk about something other than your family. I've always been a firm believer in having an independent life away from your partner to remember who you are (this goes both ways). It gives you and your partner something new to talk about and if the worst should happen you've got a support system to lean on.
Just do it! Go out and have a great time!!!

I was you, it was one of the reasons me and exdp split up. I’m now in a relationship where dp is always encouraging me out- whether it’s with him, his siblings, his nieces and nephews or my friends. It’s a totally different relationship and makes me feel more loved in a way, that he wants to see me happy, and he’s encourages my friendships.

Do it!!! Have fun!!! As @Hepte said me time is important for you both, it means you can unwind, be you and also gets you new gossip (we love making up stories about random people when we go out for dinner, so try and have a tale about someone we saw when out, yes I am aware we sound strange)
My oh goes to the gym, I do bookclub and bookless bookclub once a month.

This all sounds so much fun, I only have a couple of friends left now though, it's going to be hard expecially with anxiety and somebody to have the children

What do you mean "someone to have the children"

Your DH can take care of them while you go out, surely?

It's very sad that you think you might possibly be unreasonable at wanting to have friends and spend time with them.

What do you get out of this relationship?

Won't your partner look after the kids if you go out? Or do you not trust him to do it?

What is bookless bookclub?

@sweeney it started about 5 years ago as an excuse for us girls to get together and catch up every month, most were new mums so it's a break from "real life". We referred to it as bookclub and then someone's dp said the only reading that happens is the wine bottle labels, and bookless bookclub was born 😂

Why do the nights out end in arguments? And why can't he have the DC when you go out?

He needs to look after his own children while you have a night out.