To ask how did you get over a partners “ betrayal “

[mummylove31]

Wondering if anyone can share how they managed to forgive their partner after they done something that hurt them? I have been crying all day and feel like I have been stabbed in the chest after reading messages on my fiancé’s phone after him being out drinking to a girl nothing to suggest any cheating but some hurtful things said. When confronted he was just having a laugh and he’s so apologetic. I’ve decided after thinking it could really be over I do desperately want to forgive him and move on . We own our house and have a young baby and I love him very much

The key isn’t how you forgive him.
It’s how he gives you reason to forgive him.

Downplaying shit saying he was just having a laugh doesn’t sound like he’s given you a good reason. Being apologetic means NOTHING. Almost everyone will say “sorry” to dig themselves out of a whole. Of course I don’t know what he said, and if it could be “having a laugh”. But generally, I’d say if he fucked up then the ball is in HIS court, not yours.

This is on him, not you - he has to prove he is worthy of forgiveness. He has to do the work here.

A man who truly loves and respects you would never slag you off to some random girl. Why would you want to forgive that?