To kiss my girlfriend in public?

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My girlfriend has no problem kissing in public but I'm always slightly shy,worrying what people would think.
Would you be offended or think we look stupid?
Aibu to kiss her in public?

I think it depends on what you're comfortable with, OP. I am quite happy with PDA, but my DP would sooner die than even peck me on the cheek/hold hands etc in public. Given that it bothers him so much, I'm happy to go along with this. If he loves me, he loves me, and it's fine if he feels uncomfortable with kissing etc in public. I love him, and I'm not going to force him to do anything that he doesn't like. It's not as if PDAs are vital to a relationship.

Pda are fine in my book no matter who it is. But when it becomes full on snogging, the tongues all in slobbery and moaning kind, that's too far and there is no need for it, no matter who you are, no one needs to see that.

However in a club, from your update, that's a different story, normal social constructs of pdas seem to go out the window. I wouldn't worry, enjoy yourself!!!

Oh lord not PDA's! No need other than maybe a peck goodbye/hello. Definitely no snogging!

I'm with Fudge and WeeDangerous.

Meh, as long as you're not dry humping in the middle of town go for it lol.

We kissed a lot in a club last week (now I'm thinking,god what were people thinking)

They were probably thinking 'Get a room' or if you live together 'Go home and snog'.

Of course you can, and of course that doesn't mean you must feel you should. If you're not comfortable that's ok.

I do agree with PP that making affection visible can be a very positive thing, though. I belong to a religious tradition (C of E) where, when you offer 'a sign of peace,' you would shake hands with most people but you'd kiss your partner. We do that. And most people, obviously, have far better things to be thinking about and don't notice. But a couple of people have said positive things, and one man who came to a baptism with his partner and was visibly uncomfortable all through the service, told me after that it made him aware it was a friendly church and he wouldn't be judged. I thought that was good.

An affectionate kiss? Lovely! Always makes me smile to see a happy couple. Getting hot and heavy? Get a room! NO one wants to see that!

Depends on the type of kiss. A full on snog, keep it for private. A quick kiss, fine.

In a club is slightly different though, I wouldn't think much of it if I saw people kissing in a club.

Properly snogging in public isn't the best, but meh, I'm sure we've all been there at some point.

Kissing hello / goodbye or even a lovely i-just-really-want-to-kiss-you-now lingering smooch is fine and I actually quite like seeing it, in a non-creepy way ; that goes for couples of all kinds - same sex / mixed sex.

But, a proper, tongue-y, long make out session on the tube feels a bit like attention seeking.

(Straight) teenagers seem to do it a lot. It's gross on them too. But I did it on the odd occasion too at that age. So I can't say it's a big bugbear of mine.

Also agree that clubs are totally different. Fine to have a good snog in a club. I've seen a LOT worse in clubs tbh.

Club is OK. Is it a same sex thing or a general PDA thing?

My girlfriend and I are quite obviously a couple when we are out. Not snogging in the freezer aisle of Asda, but hand holding or arms around each other as we walk etc.

No more or less than is fairly standard for a straight couple.

As others have said, my views are the same whatever the couples sex. Full on snogging, no. But otherwise absolutely fine. But yes in a club, go for it!

Another one who doesn’t like to see people snogging in public. My dp is a lot more affectionate than me and will try to snog me in public (not full on tongues or anything but not just a peck either) and I get embarrassed.
I think it’s an age thing? I remember us years ago snogging at the bar at the Irish club in Manchester and an old man telling us to “get a room, will ya?”

My DP is very touchy feely in public and there is nothing I cant stand more.

You really can wait to snog each other until your home. A couple of hours our of the house without being touchy feely really isn't hard.

He hates the fact I think like this, and I do too in a way, I shouldnt care but I look at some people and think I dont want to see that, so I assume that how people see us too. So no, I hate PDA's.

I enjoy the term 'get a room!'

In a club is fine, no one will even notice. In general though I’m not a fan of PDAs for anyone.

In a club fine but in a supermarket/street/shopping centre/park/cafe etc not fine, unless you are a spotty teenager, I will always remember a pair of acne ridden teens literally eating each others faces one afternoon at the charter fair, no one could look away it was revolting yet mesmerising at the same time.

Of course you can, but do you want to? Nobody should feel they have to do something they feel uncomfortable doing. Kissing is supposed to be fun so if it makes you feel anxious and uncomfortable, what’s the point? This isn’t just a gay thing because many, many heterosexuals feel the same as you.

The only thing that would make me pause for your case is that because you’re in a gay
relationships this may have an added layer of importance to her because she needs to feel like you’re proud to be out with her and will acknowledge your relationship publicly.

Maybe she will compromise with pecks and cuddles.

In general I'd say an affectionate kiss and landholding are fine. Snogging is not. But in a club? who cares?
All this is regardless of the sex of the 'happy couple'. But for same sex couples I'm really happy to see the 'affectionate kiss and handholding'. I agree its great for my kids to see.
But nobody wants to see tongues and snogging in the street. I've only seen heterosexual couples being inappropriate in public though, outside of 1990s Soho.

Yeah it's always been in a club.
I'm bisexual and even felt awful kissing men in public.
It caused a lot of agro over the years with different people.

Don't go clubbing, then?

Job done.

Snogging is never acceptable in public regardless of gender . A kiss is fine .