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To send a text to ask for help

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bowloforanges · 12/05/2019 20:46

I need to ask for a specific type of support from someone, which would help me emotionally. I see this person once a week, but I haven't had the courage to bring it up and ask them face to face. I'm now considering sending them a text about it, so that they know without me having to broach the subject in person, and I'll be forced to talk to them about it next time I see them. Do you think that would be ok? I don't want to make things weird! But I just don't know if I'll ever be brave enough to approach them about it in person and obviously if I keep avoiding it, I'm not getting the help that I need to move forward.

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TitianaTitsling · 12/05/2019 20:48

How much impact/effort would your request place on them?

PlaymobilPirate · 12/05/2019 20:48

Depends what it is you're asking for really. I'd help my friend if I could and felt able to

Sirzy · 12/05/2019 20:49

Send a text. Even if you start it with “sorry for texting but...”

VampireSlayer19 · 12/05/2019 20:50

It really depends on circumstances and what your asking.

As much as they may be of help emotionally it maybe they are not in a place to offer it.

What are you expecting from the chat?

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bowloforanges · 12/05/2019 20:54

It's something they've mentioned to a mutual friend. They would be helping me work through a programme, and they've done it before with other people. The mutual friend thinks it would benefit me, and suggested that I reach out to this person, because the person has approached our mutual friend to let her know that they'd like to do the programme with someone again if the opportunity came up. Almost like a mentoring programme of sorts. Basically our mutual friend thinks we'd be a good match, I just need to find the courage to ask the person!

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bowloforanges · 12/05/2019 21:00

I think what I'd be asking for is within the parameters of what they'd be able to offer. I just wondered if it would be ok to send the text rather than mentioning it in person? I just wanted to send the text as an initial mention of it so that we could talk about it more in depth in person.

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Crazycat16 · 12/05/2019 21:12

I think that it would be fine to send by text.

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 12/05/2019 21:14

Sounds fine to me

piffar · 12/05/2019 21:19

Is this for aa or similar? In any case mentoring programmes very usually encourage support from peers so I would go ahead and ask. Don't feel awkward. People are in the programme to help

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