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Advice for wording LC e-mail

7 replies

Poing · 12/05/2019 19:48

I have had an e-mail from someone I am low contact with. This person, who I was previously close to, knows the reasons behind my low contact. They have, however, minimised their behaviour and have displayed some traits of narcissism/personality disorder, which has made reconciliation unlikely.

They have recently sent me an e-mail asking if I am cutting them off and how they love me and how hurt they feel. Does anyone have any helpful phrases I can use to not bring up their behaviour again and instead grey-rock them? I have tried Google unsuccessfully

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Alsohuman · 12/05/2019 19:50

Why bother? Delete and don’t reply.

jpclarke · 12/05/2019 19:53

I wouldn't reply when someone I went no contact with started sending my daily texts that I wouldn't answer, I just blocked them. Life is too short to worry about them, and by responding you are opening up the lines of communication by ignoring you keep them at a distance.

AnneOfAvonlea · 12/05/2019 19:55

Dont reply. It's what they want - to suck you back in.

CupoTeap · 12/05/2019 19:55

Never reply

violetbunny · 12/05/2019 19:57

Do not reply! They are just trying to get a reaction from you.

MoMandaS · 12/05/2019 20:02

I've read before on here that a good technique is saying, "As you know" then going on to say what your boundaries are and (briefly) the reasons they're firmly in place.

MoMandaS · 12/05/2019 20:06

Sorry, just realised that isn't quite what you asked. Could you say, "I'm sorry you feel hurt. As you know, I am also hurt. Because of that, it's best we keep our distance."?

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