Is this rude?

[cheeseislife8]

A family member has form for flaking on plans at the last minute, being very late or just forgetting altogether.

Yesterday, said family member rang me and made a provisional arrangement to come round today... she was going to call me at a certain time today and say if she was coming as she had a plan in the morning. Fair enough.

BUT because of how unreliable she can be, I stated that this was fine, but please make sure you let me know if you're coming either way so I can go do other things if you're not.

That time has been and gone, a couple of hours ago. I've sent a message at 3pm saying if you need to cancel it's fine, but please let me know. No reply.

Would I be rude to just go out?

No, it wouldn't be rude to go out - I'd have gone out as soon as the time went; if I had somewhere I wanted to be.

Sorry that she's messed you around!

Of course you should go out, why wouldn't you if you have things you need to do.

Definitely go out. Even if I didn't want to go out I'd not answer the door or my phone.

I have a family member who does this. I have missed out on loads of stiff acting around for her to turn up. It ruins our time together when she eventually shows up - beciase I am resentful.

Go out - enjoy the day.