Is this rude?

[cheeseislife8]

A family member has form for flaking on plans at the last minute, being very late or just forgetting altogether.

Yesterday, said family member rang me and made a provisional arrangement to come round today... she was going to call me at a certain time today and say if she was coming as she had a plan in the morning. Fair enough.

BUT because of how unreliable she can be, I stated that this was fine, but please make sure you let me know if you're coming either way so I can go do other things if you're not.

That time has been and gone, a couple of hours ago. I've sent a message at 3pm saying if you need to cancel it's fine, but please let me know. No reply.

Would I be rude to just go out?

No, you wouldn't be being rude.

Just go. If she whines tell her she’s the rude one for not updating you or responding to your message.

Of course not! I would have given them 20 minutes and then gone out. You’re most definitely not being rude.

I read this as "flaking on planes" and thought it was a fascinating extragavance!

Of course you can go about your business. In future just tell her to text you as you will be out and about. That way you can also cancel if you're out and don't want to go back home.

Definitely just go, if you’ve clearly spelled out for her to let you know. If she does come round then tough- it’s a perfect lesson. Win-win!

Not rude on your part at all.
Very rude on theirs.

@dudsville flaking on planes 😀

Thanks guys, I was wondering if I was being un-accomodating.

I'm going out! It's too nice to wait in for people who may or may not arrive

Totally YANBU... If anyone is being rude then it's her for not updating you.