To think he should lie?

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Name changed for this. Friend is a bisexual who says he feels isolated by the lgbt community and straight people too.
He’s had many people say they no longer want to date when they find out he’s bi - mainly women.
He’s a good guy who wants a monogamous relationship so am I wrong in thinking he doesn’t need to disclose his sexuality?

If someone asks I don’t think he should lie but it feels while society is prejudiced it’s best to say nothing.

Its sad so many of us have had the same experiences, makes me blue

Me too, it’s really sad

Well it seems most people disagree with me and as a few bi people (including him btw) have said they wouldn’t want to lie anyway I won’t be giving him any advice. It just seems pointless. Gay men think he is in denial and usually don’t want relationships.

to all of you who experience the same.

No, he should continue telling the truth. It could backfire with someone he really likes who wouldn't have minded the truth, but can't be with a liar.

Everyone against this is basically saying he should have a significantly lower chance of being accepted?

So the alternative is he’s ‘accepted’, but has to spend the rest of the relationship watching what he says to avoid outing himself as bi?

No - he needs to be himself and accepted for himself or he would be living a lie and not happy. Lots of bi people are in happy relationships so being bi does not mean he won't find someone!

I was in a long relationship with a bi man. It didn't bother me at all. The only thing about it that did was when he picked up a ONS in a gay bar straight after dropping me off. He's an ex.

I have been in relationships with bi men and my friends (female) think this is odd.
To me it's about how secure /trusting you are within the relationship. For example when you read some threads on here about DP /DH having lunch, texting another female, with a bi bloke are you going to get paranoid about male friends???
Trust as always is key.

I’m Bi and a woman, I have been ‘out’ about this for many years. My main frustration when choosing to disclose this during my dating years (usually within the first few dates) was Men who immediately said “oh so you’d be up for a threesome then?” and were genuinely perplexed when I said, nope that’s not for me.

Or with women I’d either be a no go because I’d had a penis in me which was disgusting to them as a lesbian or who insisted I was just messing them about because Bi women are either not at all in their opinion or a full lesbian without wanting to admit it which they felt was insulting to them...

When I met my now DH I had lost a lot of faith in a serious, monogomous relationship (with either a Man or Woman) and I told him I was Bi on our first date, he was a bit surprised and did make the usual cringe worthy joke, but when I set him straight on my boundaries, kindly mind you (I.e no I don’t want a sodding threesome it’s not my thing and I was looking for commitment, yes I do appreciate women for their looks but that doesn’t mean I’ll ogle women with him because I don’t usually find people attractive until I get to know them etc.) he was apologetic and took serious notes as the relationship went on. Now married with lovely kids so it can happen, but it is difficult to explain that just because I’m Bi it doesn’t mean I’m up for anything or likely to wander off to the other sex when I “get bored” (another favourite saying of those I have had minimise Bisexuality in the Gay community).

Also just to add, I also have Gay/Lesbian friends who are fully supportive of me - I’m not trying to tar the whole LGBT community with the same brush!