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To be annoyed with DH for not walking away?

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pinkelephantsanddietcoke · 12/05/2019 02:15

Just home from a night out with DH and his work colleagues. In one of the bars DH started speaking to a woman I didn't recognise (no big deal), I'm standing chatting to his boss and his wife and the young admin girl from his office. The next thing this woman tries to full on snog DH! He's trying his best to avoid her but still continues to chat away to her. I'm standing casually looking over thing 'WTF?'. So she's going in for the snog, he's ducking and diving but still chatting....
she then says to his (female) boss, 'don't worry I'm not trying it in with your husband'. She says, 'he's not my husband but you're a knob'.
DH then comes over to me like he's glad to escape and can't work out why I'm a bit peeved. He spoke to her for about half an hour (despite the snog attempt). He then gets annoyed with me for being off with him...., then the young admin girl tells my DH that he was really in the wrong and should've walked away as soon as she was trying to snog him. He was then very apologetic.
AIBU to think he's only apologetic because his work friends called him out? He originally told me I was overreacting.
PS. I'm aware I'm ranting. He's a dick isn't he?
Thanks in advance for your input.

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SignedUpJust4This · 13/05/2019 15:17

Does he know this woman?

MaximusHeadroom · 13/05/2019 15:25

If that was my DH I would have gone over to see if he needed help. I have been in situations where I didn't feel comfortable but didn't want to make a scene and probably from the outside it would have looked like I was fine.

You are a team. If you know he likes to talk and was clearly trying not to let this woman kiss him, instead of watching and waiting for him to do the right thing or fuck up, I think you should have gone over and supported him.

SignedUpJust4This · 13/05/2019 15:31

I would be concerned as to why this lady felt she could be so familiar with him.

pinkelephantsanddietcoke · 13/05/2019 23:42

He didn't feel awkward or uncomfortable though. We've discussed it since and he says he didn't even really notice she was trying to kiss him Hmm. I showed him this thread and he says he definitely didn't feel violated in any way at all.
He knew her from about 20 years ago. She went out with his flat mate at the time.
Anyway, doesn't seem so bad now the hangover has subsided.

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