AIBU for asking advice about DH

[BethanyGilbert]

I’ve just had a glass shattering moment. DH speaks very rudely to everyone- all the time. He also shows a lack of interest in other people unless he’s complaining. I don’t think he realises how he comes across to other people. How can I broach the subject with him? He’s quite sensitive and I’m worried this is losing him friends and causing friction between him and his siblings. He seems to have no idea how he comes across to other people and it’s making me feel I attracted to him.

Oh, the irony of 'sensitive' people being insensitive to how they treat others. It's always the way.

Just tell him he will end up with no friends or family who care about him if he doesn't start treating people well.

What sort of things does he say?

I used to be a bit like this but realised myself (thank god) and made changes.

I’d have been mortified if someone had told me but I’d have needed to know.

Tell him. Be frank, honest and to be honest his sensitivity is irrelevant given he doesn’t care about others.

You're just going to have to be honest with him and hope it sinks in. Not sure what else to suggest.

My FIL is like this, he's horrible and none of his family wants to spend time with him. He's bitter, hatefilled, self absorbed and treats people terribly. I avoid him like the plague and keep the kids away from him as much as possible. Maybe that's an extreme example but the behaviour sounds similar and he's got much worse over the past decade or so.