Is talking and being friends with someone who’s sort of your teacher wrong?!

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Help!

We’re both adults but there is an age gap of 15 ish years if that matters. I think not once you get to a reasonable age but I guess maybe to others it does.

Only see them face to face once a week. In a ‘teaching’ environment but speak to them in breaks/making a cuppa etc
But you know when you get on well with someone and you could talk lots with no awkwardness despite hardly knowing each other.
Anyway so we had a text conversation for all of an evening and into the next day a few weeks ago. Then saw them in ‘teaching’ enviro and chatted in break- they came up to me to show me something we’d discussed in messages. Thought all good.

Then left for the day. Called them as I was driving home to give traffic heads up and know they travel same way. Anyway they didn’t answer, fair enough. Didn’t hear anything back that evening so messaged next day to say it was only about the traffic so doesn’t matter anymore. No reply.
Few days pass, i message to ask about something they had told me they were doing, no reply.

I need to not write another bloody message but I’m confused 😐 I’m awful for overthinking, and especially so as had a bit of a stressful emotional week.
So are they just not going to message? Have we crossed a line? Am I overthinking?

Don’t text anymore
There are professional boundaries although you are adults
I was sexually harassed by an adult tutor last year it was awful. There shouldn’t really be a friendship IMO it’s inappropriate

I would think they thought it had gone far enough to get past the boundaries of acceptable and they’re trying to redefine things back to a professional footing. Sure you were calling about traffic but I’d be worried if I were them that you were starting to find pretexts to make contact (rather than it coming naturally eg from a conversation started during lesson) and yes as a teacher I would then draw back. Not a reflection on you at all.

Think you need to let it go. Inappropriate in any event if he is your 'teacher' and if you keep messaging him you'll probably come across as a bit of a stalker!

It isn’t wrong if it’s somethin you’re both happy and comfortable with it, but it does seem a little one sided so I would personally leave it alone.

Firstly, stop messaging. I chat with tutors over coffee and about genral things, but I would never think of exchanging numbers tbh... That's breaking boundaries.
Secondly, either they realised that or most likely someone clocked onto it and put a concern to the head about unprofessional conduct.

Doesn't matter about age. Relationships with students are not really ok.

I mean I think if you're thinking this much about it, your feelings are more than just friendly, aren't they? And whether or not your teacher has similar feelings, I think he's done the right thing in withdrawing a bit.

Ok all agreed no more messages.
It is a she not a he and I am straight and married, to clarify from that point of view.
Just thought if we knew each other from somewhere else we would click and get on well and it bugs me that that’s a potential good friendship shot down because they teach at a place I go.
And i thought they were the kind of person to call people for their shit so she’d just say I think we shouldn’t be messaging you if that’s the case.

It might be that the teacher has rethought this potential friendship and decided it is better to keep it as a professional and not a personal relationship. It´s a shame, but that's just the way it is.

Even friendship amongst same sexes can be an inappropriate relationship in certain settings