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I'm high maintenance

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SparklesAndUnicorns · 11/05/2019 18:14

This is more of a light hearted post and hopefully people will resonate with the overthinking when first meeting someone.

I am speaking to/dating (unsure of what to call it) a man I like, we have met a few times and slept together not that long ago it's going really well and we talk almost every day but I honestly feel bad because I feel like I need constant attention, if he doesn't message me all day or just sends a few short messages or snapchats I start immediately worrying I've done something wrong and he's gone off me it's like if he doesn't message me good morning or goodnight I go off on one worrying. I laugh about I to myself after when we've spoken and it's absolutely fine and then I think gosh I must thing I'm some sort of princess awaiting his messages when he's at work or out with his mates 😂
I'm totally over reacting I know but the last few days we haven't spoken as much, when we do speak it is all fine and normal but it isn't as frequent as when we first started talking and now I'm thinking I'm some sort of attention whore who needs reassurance all the time and I need to get a life. He's so laid back and probably thinking we are more comfortable and confident that we don't need to talk as much as it's clear we like each other. This first bit where you don't know where you stand and it's all a bit of fun is nice and all but it stresses me out and makes my brain go all stupid!
Am I being super high maintenance? Do I need to chill out? Probably yes to both of those questions haha

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Dieu · 12/05/2019 00:07

I don't think there's anything wrong with you ... but ... step away from the phone! It sounds to me like you're hooked on the dopamine ('feel good') rush that receiving messages can provide. This is fairly synthetic though, and not real. Focus more on your real life interactions with this man, rather than your phone communications. Keep yourself busy, and never let someone else dictate your moods. It sounds like things are going really well, but you're going to spoil things if you continue to be so neurotic about this. I have been there though, so do understand! Thanks

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